MareSaturni
214red said:one of the things i think as readers we are sometimes (am including myself in this) at fault for is using the cards to ask questions we should be asking the person. I also think we use the card sometimes to see if what someone told us was the truth, its like were not using our intuition/gut instinct we are doubting what we feel, instead trusting the cards to tell us something we already know.
This is the VERY reason why i don't do third party readings. Don't ask ME what he thinks - ask him.
Not to mention when people want the cards to contradict what the person said. He said no - she comes to me and asks what he really means or really feels, in hope i'll say "he actually meant yes, you know, he's insecure blah blah blah."
I already ranted enough here in the forum on why i don't do third-party reading, and had enough rotten tomatoes thrown at me so i'd rather not go down this road again. But i do agree that people are becoming more and more fearful of experiencing, without realizing that both the good and bad experiences are important in our lives.
Yes, i do believe that asking "what does he think of me" or "what is she doing" IS intrusive. And useless. There's nothing you can do with this information except speculate and turn little things in big monsters. I know that - believe me, i have fretted over readings about how Mr. I-Wish-Was-Right felt about me and what would he do if we met and and and... it made me confused and depressed, because not only i couldn't understand the information, it also made me anxious because nothing could be done about what he felt or which would his reaction be.
I think a good reading is the one that gives the querent tools to do actually something - "how can i approach him" or "how can i make my relationship with her more open". If you are afraid of the next experience, instead of asking about the other, why not asking about the reasons behind your fear?
The problem is that people are too much interested in others, and too afraid to look inside themselves.