Nevada said:
And, DI, don't we all have baggage? That's sort of a given.
Yes we do . And as readers we have to assume that's why some people are in need of readings .
Nevada said:
It's how we inflict our baggage on others that reveals who we are. I don't see those who reacted negatively to the questions as doing that, since LoD requested feedback.
My comment was about the general attitude reflected of some of the respondents towards readings , not towards the original poster of the question .
Nevada said:
To me this thread demonstrates the true value of an honest discussion.
Yes it does , because there is something to be learned .
Logiatrix said:
Yes, in fact, every question in the very first post is about the reader. Refusing to accept a client like that does not make a reader wrong or one who has "baggage"; it is her (or his) prerogative, likely based on the confrontational tone from the onset of interaction.
A reader does have the right to refuse a genuinely abusive client . I was just amazed that the original poster's questions would be perceived that way . I think it reflects something about the reader's attitude if something so benign as asking some valid questions before contracting for a reading is seen as confrontational , aggressive , abusive , threatening , or insulting in some way .
People who need readings are sometimes upset , confused , lost , or in some other way maybe not too knowledgeable about tarot and readings . We have to expect that some of them may be in a state of anxiety which it will be to our benefit to put at ease if possible . And if answering some simple questions that will probably take about 5 minutes will help , then I don't have a problem with it . It doesn't insult me and I don't perceive it as aggression or a threat.
What I think may be learned is something about "customer service " . Imagine if you were going to spend your money for a product or service (and a very intensely personal one at that ) and the person on the other end of the transaction refused to answer your questions or treated you like you had a lot of nerve to question them in the first place . You might think there was something very wrong and drop the whole idea of having anything to do with them .
What I am trying to say in blunt and short is -, turn your egos down a few notches and get over yourselves . You're not too high holy to answer a few questions .And if you think you might be ,then maybe you should reconsider your suitability as a reader and think about it some more . Who are you reading tarot for ? Yourself or the querent who comes in need of help ? If the answer is Yourself , then by all means carry on as before and ignore whatever I've said .