I am just starting with Tarot and have a question about 'negative' news.
When someone asks a question of you as a reader do you give them the exact answer as you see it? I recently had a reading done and the reader mentioned she didn't like giving people news that would upset them (pending illness or loss of a loved one). I am a bit confused. I don't always see death as a negative (someone freed from pain is one example of positive). Without knowing all the context if you withhold information could you not be doing more harm?
Interested to hear other opinions on this.
I think there are a number of issues here. First if you ask the question anything can come up. So the querent needs to be sure beforehand that they are willing to hear anything that can come up. If the answer might be very unpleasant I will stop and tell them that, that they are SURE they REALLY want to hear the answer to that no matter what comes up. And I will not go on unless they are sure.
One example that comes to mind is a friend who wanted to know if her son-in-law would survive the brain surgery he was having next month. I again told her if I ask anything can come up. And is she sure she wants to know. If something negative came up, does she think it would make her feel better or worse during that time before the surgery. She decided she did not want to know and did not want me to do the reading.
I think a lot of times people ask the hard questions because they just want to hear everything is going to be alright. But sometimes things are not headed where they wish. IT happens. So first the querent needs to be SURE they want the answer, before I will do a reading of this type. And can handle whatever comes up.
I don't think anyone likes to give others really bad news. I personally try to avoid readings on if someone will die. I don't want that responsibility. There are times when I might, you have to sense when a question feels wrong. We, as readers, can refuse to answer any question that feels wrong to us.
On the other hand, in questions where something "negative"comes up, yes I tell the querent everything I see. If you see it, then it is your job to tell them. If you see it, then that is info they need. But what I see in a card is not just the unpleasant thing but also the good in it, the good behind it, the reason it has to happen now for their own good, the lesson they can learn from it to better themselves and their lives. All that also shows up as part of the message.
The cards don't just tell us "negative" events, but the good surrounding them. The comfort surrounding those events also shows up in those cards. And it is our job to tell the WHOLE story. Not just the event but the good that can and will come from it afterwards. It is there in the cards too, if we look just a bit deeper. That iis my belief. We tell ALL we see, but if we look deeply enough we see it all, the whole story.
Also we need to remember that different people have different ways of seeing things than we do. Whether or not you or I see death as something scary, we need to remember some people see it as terrifying. Whether or not you or I believe we are eternal, some people fear death as an ending and see it as proof life is meaningless and random....We need to be careful of our wording so as not to scare people.
There are many different ways to word the exact same message. The words we choose count and are important.
Babs