punchinella
I have been at a crossroads this last week and found myself in need of advice. So, I did what I don't often do: I splurged on a reading for $$$ (well, not exactly $$$, but $$). I found a reader in a local shop and asked her whether or not a course I'm considering pursuing is worth pursuing, and she pulled out a bunch of cards, and answered no. I then came up with a couple of alternatives, and she looked into those with new bunches of cards, and again answered no. I racked my brain to think of more alternatives, and she looked into each option I came up with, and told me that no, none of these courses of action were likely to work out for me. I felt like she was scrambling, trying to come up with something to offer me, and I tried to help her with this. But no cigar. Nothing positive could be found.
Finally time was almost up. Knowing that leaving a client with nothing at all is not great from the perspective of the reader, I decided to help her out by asking a totally unrelated question. She managed to find a tiny thread of hope in response to this query, and the reading ended with that. She apologized for not being able to help me, and I thanked her for not sugarcoating and for answering my questions honestly. But I did come away with nothing: no plan of action, no larger perspective, no prospects. Nothing, at any rate, related to my main line of enquiry.
I've heard so many times from those of you on the forum who do read professionally that you feel you have a duty to the client to help find a way forward, that this is what readings are about. My question is: in tough cases, what is the difference between truth-telling and failing the querent altogether? Is a reading which does not offer hope a failed reading, or an honest one?
I'm not so much disappointed in my experience, as intrigued. I guess there are broader questions behind the ones I've articulated above, and these are philosophical in nature. Is it possible to find oneself in a position in which there are no grounds for hope? Or in which nothing, absolutely nothing, can be done? The reader kept repeating to me, as she turned over cards, "Oh--you're between a rock and a hard place. You're in a very bad position. You're really stuck."
I really don't know what to think about this. It was a bizarre experience.
Finally time was almost up. Knowing that leaving a client with nothing at all is not great from the perspective of the reader, I decided to help her out by asking a totally unrelated question. She managed to find a tiny thread of hope in response to this query, and the reading ended with that. She apologized for not being able to help me, and I thanked her for not sugarcoating and for answering my questions honestly. But I did come away with nothing: no plan of action, no larger perspective, no prospects. Nothing, at any rate, related to my main line of enquiry.
I've heard so many times from those of you on the forum who do read professionally that you feel you have a duty to the client to help find a way forward, that this is what readings are about. My question is: in tough cases, what is the difference between truth-telling and failing the querent altogether? Is a reading which does not offer hope a failed reading, or an honest one?
I'm not so much disappointed in my experience, as intrigued. I guess there are broader questions behind the ones I've articulated above, and these are philosophical in nature. Is it possible to find oneself in a position in which there are no grounds for hope? Or in which nothing, absolutely nothing, can be done? The reader kept repeating to me, as she turned over cards, "Oh--you're between a rock and a hard place. You're in a very bad position. You're really stuck."
I really don't know what to think about this. It was a bizarre experience.