BrightEye
i can identify with that too. i so badly want to be rescued and cared forLyric said:The rescuer syndrome is usually a big part of a dependency relationship.
i can identify with that too. i so badly want to be rescued and cared forLyric said:The rescuer syndrome is usually a big part of a dependency relationship.
BrightEye said:maybe i live a sheltered life, but i'm not sure i've been in this kind of situation before. unless perhaps you explain to the innocent what you mean
memries said:One of my Archetypes is Rescuer. (This would come from Tower experiences).
I quote from the book Sacred Contracts:
"The shadow Rescuer often surfaces through a romantic connection in which one party seeks to establish an intimate bond by lending emotional support, with a hidden agenda that assumes the rescued party will return the Rescuer's romantic feelings. Such romances are destined to fail, because the Shadow agenda has to keep the "rescuee " in need of being rescued, lest the Rescuer lose her significance".
This exact thing happened to me in my marriage of one year ! Neat Huh ?
Now I know why it really fell apart from a symbolic point of view.
It certainly followed a recent Tower experience for him as he was a widower and I a widow. We had a lot in common, at least I thought we did but there was no give and take. I got tired after a while. I am ok now and happy I left.
He married again right away and now she has left him so maybe it was not all me. Something said to me, "Go now" so I went !!!!!!
Apollonia, maybe my life is not so sheltered afer all. many a time i thought of running off, but nobody would run with me, so i stayed put (hasn't stopped me from dreaming on though).Apollonia said:Some ways I've seen this expressed (not to say that I've personally done all of these LOL) is by being repeatedly intrigued with "bad boy" type partners, running off with a lover and having your work or family life suffer as a result, or having an extramarital affair. Looking at it objectively, you could pretty much predict what type of chaos you might be bringing into your life, but there's something that just draws you in. Looking back, you say, "I should have known better," even while suspecting you would have made the same choice anyway.
BrightEye said:Apollonia, maybe my life is not so sheltered afer all. many a time i thought of running off, but nobody would run with me, so i stayed put (hasn't stopped me from dreaming on though).