Thank you firefrost...I really needed that hug!
I emailed her back, expressing how I was surprised at her condescending tone. I apologized for offending her, if that was the case. I told her I understood the need for a second version, and that I had a great deal of respect for self-publishers and for the work she has done. I again said that my
only issue was that the scans of the old version were represented on the site, and that this was misrepresentation and unfair to those purchasing the new version, with only the scans online to go by.
I told her that I was certain her deck has done wonders for others, and that she can be proud of her artwork and publishing accomplishments. I added that I truly hoped she would consider updating the scans of the cards she has featured on her website, so that others won't be misguided when purchasing the deck, expecting something other than they will receive. I said that in all fairness, I didn't think that it was too much to ask, and in fact I think it should go without saying.
She answered, again completely ignoring the misrepresentation of the scans online, saying simply: "You must find often condescension where it does not exist, because my response was warm, honest and heartfelt. Candidly, after being accused of "scamming" you, I nonetheless still took time out of my busy day to respond. No good deed goes unpunished." That was all she said.
While my blood was boiling at this point, I tried to muster up all the positivity in me, and replied that in fact I do
not often feel this way...and that I was glad to say I couldn't remember the last time I felt talked down to like this. I told her I was baffled with her "no good deed goes unpunished" comment, which I felt was an unnecessary added jab of negativity. I told her I was trying to find the good in the chain of communication, and I was truly hoping that there was a misunderstanding in the tone of our correspondence to each other. I apologized (again!) for having offended her, as it was never my intent. And I apologized for misunderstanding her tone as well.
I cannot understand why she is so hell bent on avoiding the only issue I had. Is is so hard to say, "Thanks for bringing this issue to our attention, we will update our scans to represent the true colors of the deck."???
As for being upset for not purchasing from her, I can't say if that is true or not, but yes, that's how it sounded as she started out her first email to me. However, I bought the deck new, shrink wrapped. It's not like the deck was stolen from her. She sells the decks wholesale, and I bought one of those decks, so she received money for the deck I have. And yes, firefrost, you're right...none of this has anything to do with the issue at hand.
firefrost said:
I don't think I've ever heard of anyone blaming monitors before. In effect, is she saying that all our monitors are seeing the deck too brightly?
So where does Marion's deck come into it, that's exactly the same colouring as the webpage?
Yes, that was her defense, which was deliberately false, as Marion's deck (and others I've heard from here on the forums) match the webpage exactly. I have the deck, and what's done is done. What I'm bothered about now, is that she is completely ignoring my plea to update the site for
others. I just don't think this is right. And it's something easy to fix.
In my last two emails to her, I apologized both times, on the chance that I was misunderstanding her. Despite feeling disrespected, I allowed for the smallest chance that I just didn't "get" her tone. However, no such understanding has come from her. I am done apologizing for standing up for what I believe is right in this situation. I remain baffled at the approach she has taken with customer service. Especially considering that her deck is supposed to promote healing...