gregory
Fair comment. See into their heads, then. Which is nebulous - just as reading the cards is. (And actually, in a way, creepier... )Exactly, and I do wish we could come up with a more accurate comparison than reading a diary or putting hidden cameras into people's homes.
Yes - this and many more "less intrusive" questions go far too far, for me.Well, okay, certain third party readings I do find distasteful or just plain wrong. Asking how a man enjoys a sexual relationship with you versus his wife or current girlfriend just seem too intrusive and specific. I have seen a reading asking how a man's relationship with his terminally ill wife is versus how it would be with her, the reader/seeker, including questions about their sexual life. I found that reading to be not just callous but wrong on every level. I did comment on and help with the reading though. It was not a reading I gave to someone and if someone were to ask me such a question, I would not read on it.
I would tell the reader I had minded and I would tell the person who asked for that reading to stuff themselves. I honestly wouldn't want to be around someone who wouldn't just ask me.One way to look at it is to imagine you're the one who's the object of such a reading.
If I found out someone did a reading to find out how I felt about them, I'd probably be a little uncomfortable. Depending on what the reading was about, I might even be irritated. I'd compare it to finding out someone had been praying for me to "be saved" or something. I'd be annoyed but I'd probably just roll my eyes.
Oh this. This this this UGH.If someone read my emails, though I'd definitely have words with them, and I'd never trust them again. Probably I'd shut them out of my life.
I would disagree there. I have known (just as frinstances) a girl who couldn't unfreeze in bed who was NOT ready to tell her partner that her brother had raped her as a kid and a guy who knew that his GF was TOTALLY disgusted by homosexuals who was wondering what she would do if she ever found out his - um - public school (UK) history - where sexual activity among boys right up to 19 years of age and with staff - is rampant. (And yes, I wouldn't want to be with someone that bigoted either, but there you go.)On another issue, I do understand that sometimes the second party might not want the first party to know certain things. But then, if someone is keeping things hidden from their girlfriend/boyfriend, the reasons usually aren't good.
And we are all entitled to privacy. This "share everything warts and all if you are committed" is utter bullshit. I will have been married 50 years come December - and there are a few things I have never chosen to share with him (and wouldn't want to) - and I am willing to bet he is the same. I would NEVER go to a reader to ask what he isn't telling me, and I bloody well hope he wouldn't do that kind of thing either.