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step 19
RWS 5 of Swords
Song used-
The Winner Takes it All by ABBA:
Music & Lyrics by Björn Ulvaeus, and Benny Andersson
At what stage in the song does your particular situation come in?
The chorus/title of the song, I think captures the conflict after it dissipates:
“The winner takes it all, the loser standing small
Beside the victory, that's her destiny”
It appears as if, by looking from the outside in, that we know exactly who is the winner and who is the loser.
What happens in the story before and after this point?
What leads up to the conflict, I think, is a false sense of security. Either a case of not knowing a person well enough and placing trust in them or having known a person too long…taking them for granted…assuming all is well when it is not:
“I don't wanna talk about things we've gone through
Though it's hurting me, now it's history…”
There is a feeling of having seen and/or heard too much:
“I’ve played all my cards and that’s what you’ve done too
Nothing more to say, no more ace to play”
In believing too much that all was well, or in quickly dismissing ill conceived behavior, one looks away not trusting what the inner self is saying. The part that wishes to remain comfortable only thinks of the good times, the safety in
the past:
“I was in your arms, thinking I belonged there
I figured it made sense, building me a fence
Building me a home, thinking I’d be strong there
But I was a fool, playing by the rules”
So reality steps in and suddenly it is apparent that I did not play by the rules. That I was in fact standing on a pile of flimsy set of values. Values that needed tweaking, badly:
“The gods may throw a dice, their minds as cold as ice
And someone way down here, loses someone dear
The winner takes it all, the loser has to fall
It's simple and it's plain, why should I complain”
So something happened, something rather meaningless, not directly correlated to the problem. An excuse arises to fight, to breakthrough (if unconsciously) the rut that has evolved, and a conflict is created.
After there maybe regrets, self-doubt, shock, not only by the loser, but the winner as well:
“ The judges will decide, the likes of me abide
Spectators of the show, always staying low
The game is on again, a lover or a friend
A big thing or a small, the winner takes it all”
The reason I say winner AND loser is because when I see RWS 5 of Swords as a whole, I see both dynamics in me, regardless of situations or the many persons (outside of myself) involved. I speaking about myself.
What might these suggest about possible motivations and future choices?
That first I have to strengthen my value system and the only way to do this is through self-esteem/self-discipline. It all begins within, my own relationship with myself. I think I also have to stop fearing adversity. Not so much court it, but if there is a need to speak up, to do so. There is a way to bring up a point of contention without yelling and screaming. Adversity can be productive if you make it so.
How might you rewrite the end of the song to allow for other options?
I would say:
regardless of the plan, the gift remains still
will never forget all that you have meant…
“(this is true) victory, (in this) destiny.
It’s simple and it’s plain, why should I complain”
RWS 5 of Swords
Song used-
The Winner Takes it All by ABBA:
Music & Lyrics by Björn Ulvaeus, and Benny Andersson
At what stage in the song does your particular situation come in?
The chorus/title of the song, I think captures the conflict after it dissipates:
“The winner takes it all, the loser standing small
Beside the victory, that's her destiny”
It appears as if, by looking from the outside in, that we know exactly who is the winner and who is the loser.
What happens in the story before and after this point?
What leads up to the conflict, I think, is a false sense of security. Either a case of not knowing a person well enough and placing trust in them or having known a person too long…taking them for granted…assuming all is well when it is not:
“I don't wanna talk about things we've gone through
Though it's hurting me, now it's history…”
There is a feeling of having seen and/or heard too much:
“I’ve played all my cards and that’s what you’ve done too
Nothing more to say, no more ace to play”
In believing too much that all was well, or in quickly dismissing ill conceived behavior, one looks away not trusting what the inner self is saying. The part that wishes to remain comfortable only thinks of the good times, the safety in
the past:
“I was in your arms, thinking I belonged there
I figured it made sense, building me a fence
Building me a home, thinking I’d be strong there
But I was a fool, playing by the rules”
So reality steps in and suddenly it is apparent that I did not play by the rules. That I was in fact standing on a pile of flimsy set of values. Values that needed tweaking, badly:
“The gods may throw a dice, their minds as cold as ice
And someone way down here, loses someone dear
The winner takes it all, the loser has to fall
It's simple and it's plain, why should I complain”
So something happened, something rather meaningless, not directly correlated to the problem. An excuse arises to fight, to breakthrough (if unconsciously) the rut that has evolved, and a conflict is created.
After there maybe regrets, self-doubt, shock, not only by the loser, but the winner as well:
“ The judges will decide, the likes of me abide
Spectators of the show, always staying low
The game is on again, a lover or a friend
A big thing or a small, the winner takes it all”
The reason I say winner AND loser is because when I see RWS 5 of Swords as a whole, I see both dynamics in me, regardless of situations or the many persons (outside of myself) involved. I speaking about myself.
What might these suggest about possible motivations and future choices?
That first I have to strengthen my value system and the only way to do this is through self-esteem/self-discipline. It all begins within, my own relationship with myself. I think I also have to stop fearing adversity. Not so much court it, but if there is a need to speak up, to do so. There is a way to bring up a point of contention without yelling and screaming. Adversity can be productive if you make it so.
How might you rewrite the end of the song to allow for other options?
I would say:
regardless of the plan, the gift remains still
will never forget all that you have meant…
“(this is true) victory, (in this) destiny.
It’s simple and it’s plain, why should I complain”