Originally Posted by Filipa
maybe he thinks i'm controlling and he is even afraid of my strong personality
The Queen/Wands certainly wants things the way she wants them, and can be bossy. BUT, she is not controlling per se, because the Queen/Wands isn't someone who has long-term goals. What she wants, she wants now.
So he does not see you as the sort of woman to say, "My party must have these flowers and this wine and it must be perfect in every way---" Rather, he sees you as the sort of woman who says, "Let's fly to Rio now. No need to pack, let's just go!" That's the sort of "bossy" that he sees.
And that sort of "bossy" is the sort that men usually adore, though, yes, there are some men who are intimidated by it because they feel they can't live up to it or satisfy such a woman--or because it competes with the sort of man they want to be, the one who makes such pronouncements and drives the relationship to where ever it's going. But that doesn't mean he isn't interested. To him, you are exciting, impulsive, daring, unpredictable, creative, dynamic, inventive, sometimes dramatic--and sexually very hot. In fact, if you're going to worry about anything, worry about the fact that he sees you as a very hot and fiery love affair rather than something lasting.