Originally Posted by Jenever7
The ten of wands has come up frequently for me in questioning a relationship. I am having trouble understanding whether the relationship is a burden to my partner or does he take on this "burden" willingly? I understand out of context that is a vague question, but I'm interested in hearing what you think in general when you see this card in any relationship question - and especially as an outcome to an otherwise positive spread. Thanks!
Context is everything, so only you can answer this. But in general what might be helpful to you is if you would take some time to get the other tens out and do some comparing. The 10 of Cups and the 10 of Pents in general give very positive pictures of fulfillment. 10 of Swords of course is something else altogether, and I think if that card came up you might do a bit of worrying.
The 10 of Wands is a burden, or at least a heavy sense of responsibility, taken on willingly or not, that in the long run is difficult to sustain. In a relationship spread I would really look at what the balance of power and responsibility is in the relationship. Is one partner carrying too much emotionally, financially, practically, or otherwise? Is one partner more needy or demanding? Is one partner more aloof or blase about keeping the fire alive? It could be that one partner is not putting a lot of demands on the other, but the whole idea
or actually reality
of being in a committed relationship feels oppressive.
This card has come up many times in spreads concerning my husband before because I have had a lot of medical issues that have been extremely draining on him. It didn't indicate that he did not love me or want to be with me, but it was very taxing taking care of me.
Even though you are looking at a relationship spread, wands are not about feelings, but a 10 of Wands situation can lead to emotional trials. Take a good honest evaluation of where this card might fit in your situation.