GloriJ
So, I was recently in a relationship that lasted only 10 days. It was a very pleasant encounter and ending it before it really began has left me with a lot of questions. I found unseens's spread at this thread http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?t=63937 and decided to give it a try. This time I used my Legend: Arthurian Tarot.
Past. What brought us together: 12. The Hangman, reversed.
I wanted relief from the stress of being a grad student about to get her degree and run out of my stipend. And that is why I chose to seek this person who seems so childlike and free. I wanted to play, to relive something from my past. Perhaps I also wanted to get back in touch with the friends we had in common.
Foundation: What kept us together: 11. Justice
Ok, so it lasted only 10 days and we weren't exactly kept together...
But we found peace and equilibrium in each other. He is more popular and friendly than I am; I'm more educated and, perhaps, sophisticated. But we saw each other as equal. We were both willing to compromise and learn. He seemed like a wholesome man that I could trust.
Why I stayed with him: 8 of Swords, reversed.
I was dominated by him and yet I felt so free...
I was trying to prove him that I'm loyal and faithful, perhaps too desperately.
Why he stayed with me: 4 of Spears
Romance. Social acceptance. His friends were congratulating him on having "caught" me. We got lots of comments about how they were happy that he finally found someone.
Oh. Or was he hoping that, after proving himself as a worthy paladin, I would change from Maledisant to Beauvivante?
(We didn't exactly stay together, and those two cards seem to point out it was something pleasant but not meant to last.)
Did he really love me? Queen of Spears, reversed
No.
He saw me as a strong, charming, independent, smart and virtuous woman (like Dindrane). He liked that. But he was focused on keeping me, owning me, setting traps for me, making me fall.
Why I wanted to be with him/ what attracted me to him: 15. The Horned One
Heehee. Duh, he was sexy. He made me feel pretty and feminine and attractive instead of just smart and virtuous and strong.
We were both controlling and possessive. But I actually enjoyed his possessiveness. It made me feel owned, cared for. I felt like I belonged there, with him... or to him?
Was he using me? 14. Temperance, reversed
Not really, but he does not know what he wants.
I guess he was hoping I could inspire him, but was disappointed when my presence didn't magically solve his other issues. Also, he wanted me to see him as my only source of wisdom or guidance.
Despite his flaws, was he good for me? 5 of Swords, reversed.
Easy answer: No. Had I stayed, he would have become more and more destructive. I could have lost my head.
Deeper answer: Perhaps, he came to my life to warn me not to make the same mistakes. I have become very careful of not hurting others, of not letting my pride and my sense of fairness blind me. I need to be more forgiving. I will go through guilt and shame but there is a possibility of redemption.
Why we split up: 4 of Swords, reversed
We were a threath to each other's health and sanity.
Also, he was hoping I would heal him and make him forget about a previous love or a previous wound. But he's still bound to it.
Even if I could be a healer, he has to heal himself.
Bonus: Is reconciliation possible? 9 of Shields.
I need the freedom to be myself. And when free, I can be very willing to please my lover.
So... maybe, given that the 5 of swords is about Gawain's fall and the 9 of shields is about Ragnell, his reward/redeption.
(Too many reversed cards in this reading. Should I re-read ignoring them?)
Past. What brought us together: 12. The Hangman, reversed.
I wanted relief from the stress of being a grad student about to get her degree and run out of my stipend. And that is why I chose to seek this person who seems so childlike and free. I wanted to play, to relive something from my past. Perhaps I also wanted to get back in touch with the friends we had in common.
Foundation: What kept us together: 11. Justice
Ok, so it lasted only 10 days and we weren't exactly kept together...
But we found peace and equilibrium in each other. He is more popular and friendly than I am; I'm more educated and, perhaps, sophisticated. But we saw each other as equal. We were both willing to compromise and learn. He seemed like a wholesome man that I could trust.
Why I stayed with him: 8 of Swords, reversed.
I was dominated by him and yet I felt so free...
I was trying to prove him that I'm loyal and faithful, perhaps too desperately.
Why he stayed with me: 4 of Spears
Romance. Social acceptance. His friends were congratulating him on having "caught" me. We got lots of comments about how they were happy that he finally found someone.
Oh. Or was he hoping that, after proving himself as a worthy paladin, I would change from Maledisant to Beauvivante?
(We didn't exactly stay together, and those two cards seem to point out it was something pleasant but not meant to last.)
Did he really love me? Queen of Spears, reversed
No.
He saw me as a strong, charming, independent, smart and virtuous woman (like Dindrane). He liked that. But he was focused on keeping me, owning me, setting traps for me, making me fall.
Why I wanted to be with him/ what attracted me to him: 15. The Horned One
Heehee. Duh, he was sexy. He made me feel pretty and feminine and attractive instead of just smart and virtuous and strong.
We were both controlling and possessive. But I actually enjoyed his possessiveness. It made me feel owned, cared for. I felt like I belonged there, with him... or to him?
Was he using me? 14. Temperance, reversed
Not really, but he does not know what he wants.
I guess he was hoping I could inspire him, but was disappointed when my presence didn't magically solve his other issues. Also, he wanted me to see him as my only source of wisdom or guidance.
Despite his flaws, was he good for me? 5 of Swords, reversed.
Easy answer: No. Had I stayed, he would have become more and more destructive. I could have lost my head.
Deeper answer: Perhaps, he came to my life to warn me not to make the same mistakes. I have become very careful of not hurting others, of not letting my pride and my sense of fairness blind me. I need to be more forgiving. I will go through guilt and shame but there is a possibility of redemption.
Why we split up: 4 of Swords, reversed
We were a threath to each other's health and sanity.
Also, he was hoping I would heal him and make him forget about a previous love or a previous wound. But he's still bound to it.
Even if I could be a healer, he has to heal himself.
Bonus: Is reconciliation possible? 9 of Shields.
I need the freedom to be myself. And when free, I can be very willing to please my lover.
So... maybe, given that the 5 of swords is about Gawain's fall and the 9 of shields is about Ragnell, his reward/redeption.
(Too many reversed cards in this reading. Should I re-read ignoring them?)