When I get a court as an outcome card, my first thought is that I need to start acting like that court card in order to get the desired results.
In this case, it may be that you need to stop acting impulsively when it comes to finding your ideal mate. Maybe, you need to give people more of a chance to "prove" their worthiness before dismissing them so quickly as being Mr./Ms. Wrong and burrowing back within yourself. Maybe you need to tone down the "passionate enthusiasm" to give a relationship time to grow.
The Knight of Wands is all about having a lover in every port--lots of irons in the fire--to the point of being undependable to any one person. So, maybe, reversed, he is asking you to become more reliable by letting potential partners know they can count on you.
Most of all, maybe it just means to slow down and develop more patience in finding and picking the right one. That person will come along...
I never bend, fold, or mutilate. Unless I'm in a hurry.