Hmm, that is a really good question, perhaps the getting the proper mix is the path that leads to an understanding... and maybe some experimenting to get the right balance. Too much or too little, one is either smothered or neglected...but get it just right and everyone is happy. The trick is getting that balance without it beginning to feel like some rote recipe and routine.
So this perhaps makes Temperance "choosy" (or exclusive, as you put it), but maybe less manipulative/more practical?
Anything is possible, so why not? But usually I think of it as the mixed essences of each of the personalities involved, so that you can't tell where one stops and the other begins and You and I become Us.
I like the sound of that. But, Temperance's version of "Us" is very different than The Star, isn't it? It sort of goes back to that "measured" idea I had - Star says, "Have it ALL, have all of me!" and Temperance says, "I give you a cup, and you give me a cup". Temperance seems more "controlled," wouldn't you say?
Doh! That was staring me in the face and didn't quite catch that similarity either... both are dipping a toe... testing the water to make sure it isn't too hot or too cold. Both stand outside their emotional depths, but are in contact with them... so there is ability to look at things from a point of objectivity and clarity.
I know, right? It took me two days of pondering these two cards when this obvious similarity finally dawned on me. Also notice...they are both using both hands - The Star is pouring out with two jugs, while Temperance is pouring out/mixing with two cups. Both are measured, but one is infinitely more giving than the other, one might say. I would even go so far as to say, The Star pours out the essence, the elements needs (two jugs' worth!), and Temperance comes along the next day and tests (like a scientist) the right amounts to get the right mix. This sounds about right, looking at both cards, except The Star comes after Temperance, so it is sort of backwards. Hmmm.
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Like I said, they are in touch with their emotions, but not immersed in them, so they can be objective and have clarity. I think the day/Temperance will go by more of what they can see, rationally, and with the Sun warming it, will be more passionate about what they create from that passion. If indeed it is the same place, then the seedlings have flourished and flowered. There is a clear path ahead or perhaps wisdom led them on the path to the waters edge, to mix the emotions so they are neither too sweet or too bitter, too weak or too strong.
The Star is night, so will be more about feelings, intuition, blind faith and a willingness to act even when they don't know for certain what is there or what is to come. They are the guiding light in the darkness, solace in uncertainty.
Good points. Also though, The Star works by the cool air of the night (rational? Aquarius), while Temperance goes by the hot sun of the day (passion? Sagittarius)...in a way, they compliment each other, both elementally and action-wise.
Perhaps the difference is experience that comes from experimenting...as you were asking earlier, if it's about measuring what is given or giving in equal measure...the give and take element, then there is going to be a need for more learning and the Stars lesson is, love generates more love and is endless. There is a sense of self completion, in the Star... it is sort of reciprocal, but in a different way than the reciprocated love between one person and another. The Star finds it's completion from an inner source that is fed from the divine universe, rather than needing to believe they are complete receiving love from another person.
That's beautifully put!
Another notable difference is the Star is mortal and naked, a mere vulnerable woman, hiding nothing in the dark, getting down close to the water, kneeling in order to reach it... while Temperance is clothed, standing up and a divine being with wings... pretty powerful and well, remote. Temperance feels more like the divine intervention... maybe a feeling that this was the mix that created twin souls...that the power is in another's hands. Where in the Star it's more hands on involvement...more inspired by what guides your heart and mind...
The Star is very naked, and Temperance is quite clothed. But does this mean The Star and Temperance are then, not compatible? Because Temperance is the guiding source, whereas the The Star is the guided? Except people are guided by stars at night, and The Star comes after Temperance...so who guides whom? Is this what you mean by twin souls (a term I struggle to comprehend on many occasions)?
Another difference is in the Star, one is a pool & contained, the other flowing, but there is no co-mingling of the waters... Temperance is all about the co-mingling and mixing.
The Star is immersing herself in the pool - she's naked, ready to go in. Temperance is definitely testing the waters, and not going in anytime soon, being so fully clothed.
When we discuss it back/forth like we are, it makes me think...which card is which? They are so similar, but I didn't notice before until now. Of course, there are marked differences, but it's giving me a whole new insight into both these cards!
As far as the OP and how these two cards love...I think they're different but complimentary. Would you say that's a fair conclusion?
Oh gosh, I just had another flash of insight and when I went to edit my post to add it, it left me. That's frustrating...grr.
ETA: I think it was something along the lines of The Star is like a "night person" - doing their best work by the light of the moon, so to speak, while Temperance is a "day" person - up at the crack of dawn and working away under the blazing sun. These two together...well, give each other space, they maintain their individuality, yet dip into the same (we think) pool so they have a shared/common interest, but still remain true to their own paths. They are not co-dependent and don't spend every waking moment together because they likely aren't even awake during the same hours!
But with one managing the evening and the other, daytime, they make their "world" go round. Something like that....
