I also really dislike it when tarot readers take on the role of telling you, the PAYING customer what to do. I had a reader yell at me because "I was making my mother very upset and I should be ashamed of myself!"
Really? Do you even 'know' us? Do you know the WHOLE story there?
(this happened when my mother, my sisters and I all went to a tarot card reader and of course, mom went before me. So, I can only imagine what she said to the reader.
I needed a laugh and I just about rolled off the bed on this. It sounds like what one of my kids might have said about me being first in line before them with a reader.
For me it is the "this card always means that".
And people expecting a fortune teller. If I could do that I would foretell the lottery numbers instead.
This card means this and that one means that is truly the mark of a novice, but I didn't realize how many Tarot novices there were who read for pay till I checked out some places like youtube.
And no, you wouldn't necessarily predict the lottery numbers. We only are given to know certain things and I don't think lottery numbers are one of them.
I tell fortunes and quite well, thank you.
But not everyone believes that's what they do or what they should do, and that's also fine. We all have our calling and not everyone's calling is to fortune telling.
Clarifiers is a peeve of mine too. I think they've become more popular in our "immediate gratification" society where folks want answers NOW and don't have the time or patience to try to suss out those answers over hours or days.
One thing that's not a peeve so much as a head scratcher is the trend of using 3 cards per position in a spread. A year or two ago, it doesn't seem like folks were doing that, but within the last year or two I've seen a lot more people posting in UTC asking for help with 3 cards from a single position within a reading.
Add me to the clarifier thing. Muddyfier is more like it. But Thirteen seemed to get fed up with us saying that clarifiers don't clarify awhile back and came out in fine form and let us know she does believe they say the same thing in a different way, so I've kind of stepped gingerly around that issue ever since.
I'm scratching my head on that "three from the middle" thing too, Rodney.
Yes!
I would also add that I can't stand excessively new agey readings. When it's all spiritual advice about being "good" and about how we have to love our inner rainbow and then to be given a feather or something to take away.
Sooo---I can't give out my cute painted rocks? Darn! I should have gotten this memo about a month ago. (just kidding)
I did a reading I got wrong in the last year and found it quite humiliating but I decided I had to learn from that incident.
>muttering into the neck of my sweater something that sounds like "tantric sex"< Yes, I can strongly empathise with the humiliating part. Geez, that reading I did for celticnoodle when I'd taken medication for a slipped vertebrae in my lower back just about made me hang up my crystal ball.
So true! Our ego should have no part in readings, it can only deter us from the message that is meant to be received.
I wholeheartedly agree! Don't worry if you're doing it "right" or what your sitter thinks of you. Just get into reading mode and do your sincere best to filter out the message the cards are giving you without including your own judgments or opinions.
Well the converse of that is the person who immediately jumps to the bright side. "Oh the Tower means you will be free of former restraints is all."
Or the Tower that always means a giant orgasm. I mean, really! I even started seeing that in that card after I read that one and I haven't had sex since 1990. (No, I don't do
that but I do wear glasses.) My hormones all packed up and left to find other people who would enjoy them. Giant orgasm? Ummm---I don't have the energy. Leave me to my beading and reading Tarot.
My two main peeves are those who insist they don't read about third parties and they don't foretell the future. Yes you do---nobody lives in a vacuum. And yes you do---everything but this present moment is either past or future. But to each his own. Peace!
Thanks everyone! This gave me a good laugh!
