It's not Either/Or
etherial dreams said:
I am rather confused about whether Death symbolises actual death or whether it is a mere and difficult change in circumstance. I know not many readers would tell their sitters if something like that did come up but in a reading can't death actuall mean death sometimes? And if so how do you distinguish between reading in the cards the actual death of a person or a "death" of a situation?
You seem to imply that Death has to be always an actual Death or always a difficult change. The fact is, the Death card can come up for either. Now *usually* it will come up for a difficult change. That's it's more common meaning. But it would be incorrect for us to tell you that Death never comes up for an actual death.
It can come up for that. When it does, however, you usually get other hints. Most simply, your querent could say, "I've a sick old aunt in the hospital and I want to know if she's going to be leaving us soon." And, well, there you go. Usually that's the way you know--because the person will be asking you about a life or death matter, not just whether they should take a new job or if this relationship they're in is going to work out.
You'll also get other cards that might signal illness or time in the hospital--like 4/Swords or Judgement. Or maybe that 10/Swords.
There are instances when the cards try to signal something important, and if that's the case, you'll usually get one card over and over again, meaning the cards have a message for you and you need to ask them about it. If you got the Death card over and over again, set it out, asked the cards what it was about, then got some alarming hints--like 10/Swords--then the cards might be warning you about a real and unexpected death. But in most cases, the cards answer the question or subject the querent wants to know about. So if they're asking about a new relationship, it's HIGHLY unlikely that the Death card means anything more than the relationship is going to radically change (i.e. come to an end) rather than that someone will pass away.