Debra
I don't understand your first paragraph.
No, it's just plain harmful.
If I hit another person and they are effected, if I am wise I will own my wrong-doing. If I am arrogant I will tell them to own their feelings of pain, woundedness and demoralisation.
The responsibility to fix this issue lies with the malalligned Readers doing this.
Not with the impacted intending Sitters.
Hence my thread.
Go well!
I get it. You're saying that people who do these things you don't like are unkind, incompetent, harmful voyeurs. (Worst possible motives.) Also I am arrogant for disagreeing. Can you see at all where I and others who commented are coming from?