Hi Wandlimb...I checked your id and see you are female. Within us, we each have a feminine side (in you this is prevalent as you are female) and we have a masculine side which we tend to ignore if we are female. The male who shot you was this masculine side of you. It is very important that we are balanced between the two sides and this is one meaning of the word C.Jung used, individuation.
You may be practising being too feminine, ie fluffy, needy, not independent enough. It is easy sometimes if we have a nice man who does everything for us but you must develop yourself. (I used to do the plumbing..which drove my husband nuts) but I read a book and knew how ! I drive my car very independently, just things like that to excercise what we think of as masculine traits and they are not really. That go forward, I can do it attitude that we expect of men and then when we find out they do not know how we are surprised... kind of like they are born with it ? The stock market is a good example..do you think men are born knowing or are their interests developed like anyone else's has to be.
My husband was away quite a bit so of course I took over, with three children I had no choice but when he came home he wanted me back in the niche he understood, dependent and looking to him for answers !
You are developing into being you and there is only one of you in the whole world. You are unique. No one else's growth is yours. You may share with someone and be happy for them but you are just as important as they and also one really important factor ....YOU ARE ENTITLED TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.
This what your dream was about, balancing the two sides of you and when you work at it you will find yourself happier and more whole. Do not sacrifice yourself totally for others. Keep something for you and love yourself and know that you are on a spiritual path and by being whole you will be even a better person.
Do not be afraid of your dream just know that it was to show you something which I hope I have explained fairly clearly above.
I know it was upsetting and I know the answer because the same type of dream happened to me years ago.