gingerkid
Reflect back to Metafizzypop's What Was the Point? spread and you'll see what I mean. It's a long spread, but fun!
Long story short...I've been playing around with online dating. I met a guy and we emailed for a couple of months, then decided to meet up. Best 3 "dates" I have ever gone on; I have never had that much in common or had so much to talk about with someone before, but then he just went missing. I know, classic "he's just not that into you"...but he really did seem into me rolleyes: I know, that's what they ALL say, right?) We were basically just friends, getting to know each other- but I thought it could have developed into more, given time. So "what was the point of this interaction?" I asked my Robin Wood deck, no rx.
1 - What did I learn from my experience with this person?
The Fool- I learned not to be an idiot and think that guys can be trusted. Nah, I struck out on a new horizon with him...I had faith in men again. It was good to start over after bad experiences in the past. But now I do feel foolish.
2 - What did I gain from my experience with this person?
4 of Swords- I gained some “peace of mind,” some healing. There are lots of fish in the sea...there is “life after ex.”
3 - What did I lose because of my experience with this person?
Knight of Wands- passion...zest for dating. I’m soured on the whole thing right now and unwilling to take anymore chances because men are so ridiculous and I have better things to do than waste my time with their stupidity.
4 - My subconscious feelings about losing the person.
10 of Cups- I am hurt. I really did like him as a person.
5 - What did he learn from his experience with me?
Knight of Swords- how to be an "idiot".... (ha ha cards I agree with you)
6 - What did he gain from his experience with me?
3 of Cups- friendship, laughter, fun. We had a great time together.
7 - What did he lose because of his experience with me?
King of Swords- Clarity, a sense of a “clear cut” purpose. Perhaps some resolve that he had prior to the experience with me, he lost a bit through the experience.
8 - His subconscious feelings about losing me.
Page of Swords- No skin off his nose. He was just messing around. For him, looks like it was more of an intellectual connection...
9 - What karmic factors brought him into my life?
5 of Cups- I was concentrating too much on the disappointments of the past and karma wanted to show me there are other options out there.
10 - What karmic factors brought me into his life?
5 of Wands- Since he found me on a dating website, perhaps it was just by chance because he is talking to tons of other women? And the more options you have, the better chance it is (the word “competition’ came to my mind here).
11 - What did he gain by ending the relationship with me?
3 of Pents- He can now focus on his career goals.
12 - What did he lose by ending the relationship?
Ace of Swords- a chance for some great conversation/communication (and I always think of swords as sexual, too, so none of that for him...haha).
13 - What did I gain by his ending the relationship with me?
6 of Cups- a chance to go back out into the dating pool and meet other people out there...
14 - What did I lose by his ending the relationship?
3 of Wands- what I thought was a chance at a real connection, but that ship has sailed...
My deck started to have a sense of humor, here...
15 - What was the point of this relationship?
Death- see, there was NO point, still! Absolutely none- it was meant to be short-lived. (Maybe the correct answer was that some sort of change was supposed to happen, but I’m not seeing it).
16 - What was the meaning of it?
6 of Swords- getting away from past disappointments, again, that kind of negates the meaning...
17 - What was the essence of it?
7 of Swords- hidden, no essence. We were keeping things from each other, I think. It was an “um friendship” so we didn’t ask many questions of each other. Just had fun.
18 - What was the foundation of it?
The Hermit- being alone; again, no foundation. We both were single and wanted to stay that way more than have a relationship. But what’s wrong with a friendship?
19 - What is the future of it?
2 of Cups- what? Maybe we will have a friendship? Or again, I’m back in the dating pool?
This card kind of threw me for a loop because it does not fit with any of the others...
So see? Sometimes, there really IS no meaning...except that men are ridiculous.
Long story short...I've been playing around with online dating. I met a guy and we emailed for a couple of months, then decided to meet up. Best 3 "dates" I have ever gone on; I have never had that much in common or had so much to talk about with someone before, but then he just went missing. I know, classic "he's just not that into you"...but he really did seem into me rolleyes: I know, that's what they ALL say, right?) We were basically just friends, getting to know each other- but I thought it could have developed into more, given time. So "what was the point of this interaction?" I asked my Robin Wood deck, no rx.
1 - What did I learn from my experience with this person?
The Fool- I learned not to be an idiot and think that guys can be trusted. Nah, I struck out on a new horizon with him...I had faith in men again. It was good to start over after bad experiences in the past. But now I do feel foolish.
2 - What did I gain from my experience with this person?
4 of Swords- I gained some “peace of mind,” some healing. There are lots of fish in the sea...there is “life after ex.”
3 - What did I lose because of my experience with this person?
Knight of Wands- passion...zest for dating. I’m soured on the whole thing right now and unwilling to take anymore chances because men are so ridiculous and I have better things to do than waste my time with their stupidity.
4 - My subconscious feelings about losing the person.
10 of Cups- I am hurt. I really did like him as a person.
5 - What did he learn from his experience with me?
Knight of Swords- how to be an "idiot".... (ha ha cards I agree with you)
6 - What did he gain from his experience with me?
3 of Cups- friendship, laughter, fun. We had a great time together.
7 - What did he lose because of his experience with me?
King of Swords- Clarity, a sense of a “clear cut” purpose. Perhaps some resolve that he had prior to the experience with me, he lost a bit through the experience.
8 - His subconscious feelings about losing me.
Page of Swords- No skin off his nose. He was just messing around. For him, looks like it was more of an intellectual connection...
9 - What karmic factors brought him into my life?
5 of Cups- I was concentrating too much on the disappointments of the past and karma wanted to show me there are other options out there.
10 - What karmic factors brought me into his life?
5 of Wands- Since he found me on a dating website, perhaps it was just by chance because he is talking to tons of other women? And the more options you have, the better chance it is (the word “competition’ came to my mind here).
11 - What did he gain by ending the relationship with me?
3 of Pents- He can now focus on his career goals.
12 - What did he lose by ending the relationship?
Ace of Swords- a chance for some great conversation/communication (and I always think of swords as sexual, too, so none of that for him...haha).
13 - What did I gain by his ending the relationship with me?
6 of Cups- a chance to go back out into the dating pool and meet other people out there...
14 - What did I lose by his ending the relationship?
3 of Wands- what I thought was a chance at a real connection, but that ship has sailed...
My deck started to have a sense of humor, here...
15 - What was the point of this relationship?
Death- see, there was NO point, still! Absolutely none- it was meant to be short-lived. (Maybe the correct answer was that some sort of change was supposed to happen, but I’m not seeing it).
16 - What was the meaning of it?
6 of Swords- getting away from past disappointments, again, that kind of negates the meaning...
17 - What was the essence of it?
7 of Swords- hidden, no essence. We were keeping things from each other, I think. It was an “um friendship” so we didn’t ask many questions of each other. Just had fun.
18 - What was the foundation of it?
The Hermit- being alone; again, no foundation. We both were single and wanted to stay that way more than have a relationship. But what’s wrong with a friendship?
19 - What is the future of it?
2 of Cups- what? Maybe we will have a friendship? Or again, I’m back in the dating pool?
This card kind of threw me for a loop because it does not fit with any of the others...
So see? Sometimes, there really IS no meaning...except that men are ridiculous.