Basic spread required for complex situation!!

Hawthorne

Can anyone suggest an easy spread (I'm a novice) to help me to look at a relationship? I want to be able to assess why it appears to be stuck and consider if it can move forward, and if so how best to move it forward?

Thank you!
 

Sunburst

For a three-card spread, try this: 1 2 3
1. What influence have I had on this situation?
2. What do I need to know/consider regarding this situation now?
3. What advice should I follow to best deal with this situation as a next step?


I just used this one, with more cards, that someone else was using in the readings section:

1. What you perceive to be true (situation)
2. What is actually true (situation)
3. What you think has been happening (past)
4. What has actually been happening (past)
5. What you want to happen (near future)
6. What will actually happen (near future)
7. The outcome you desire
8. The outcome that is unavoidable
9. Advice to help you attain desired outcome

You can always tweak it a bit, if you need to...perhaps adding cards for what your partner perceives and wants to happen. Hope that helps.



I also made one up a few months ago. Here it is:
1...2...3
4...5...6
7...8...9

1: What you need to understand with respect to the past, in your relationship with your partner (what led up to the current situation)
2: The greatest weakness of the relationship you have with your partner
3: The greatest strength of the relationship you have with your partner
4: What (or who) is interfering with your relationship (or an emerging issue)
5: Something hidden or something that you have overlooked in your situation
6: What you can do to improve the situation
7: What your partner really wants from his/her relationship with you
8: What you need to consider before taking your next step
9: Likely outcome of the relationship between you and your partner, based on your current patterns

The original thread is here.

Good luck!


Sunburst
 

Sulis

Hi Hawthorne,

Be as simple as you can......

How about a really simple 3 card spread:

1.....2.... 3....

1. The situation now
2. The challenge / what's blocking you / something you can't see
3. Acvice / what you can do about it.

If you like -add another card as the potential outcome....

Remember though (if this is the same bloke that we've spoken of before) that this could just be that 4 of Cups / Hermit time - the time when nothing seems to happen, when what you need could be to be alone, to give yourself some healing time.

Hugs, Sulis xxx
 

Apollonia

In creating spreads, I'm a big fan of simplicity and of asking the question as a friend would ask you about the situation. So as far as I can tell, you have captured the essence of your desired spread right here in your initial post.

Three cards:
1) Why does the relationship appear to be stuck?
2) Can it move forward?
3) If so, how best to move it forward?
or
3) If not, what is my best energy/strategy to move forward on my own?
 

EnglishRose

Apollonia said:
In creating spreads, I'm a big fan of simplicity and of asking the question as a friend would ask you about the situation. So as far as I can tell, you have captured the essence of your desired spread right here in your initial post.

Three cards:
1) Why does the relationship appear to be stuck?
2) Can it move forward?
3) If so, how best to move it forward?
or
3) If not, what is my best energy/strategy to move forward on my own?
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Thanks for posting that spread, that is one i know i will use again and again.
 
The "Primative Tribe" Spread Wish/Desire spread.