Can&#39t "connect" with my Tarot cards....

Michelle

Hello... I purchased Tarot cards in January of 2001... and I can't seem to "get it". Perhaps I am using the wrong deck ?

I started with Rider Waite, then I purchased Universal Waite, and neither deck seems to speak to me. Any help will be truly appreciated.

Thank you, Michelle
 

blue

The waite deck is a very good one to start with. Perhaps another would be more to your liking but remember, not every one reads the same way. Some people are very intuitive, other have to memorize the meanings. I still have to go to the book at times.

I doubt if there is anything wrong with you, you just need to find a method that work for you. Practice make perfect.
 

Thirteen

This is your first deck, correct?

RW is not a warm deck. Waite was a very serious and scholarly guy and the feel of many of the cards can be off putting, not welcoming or friendly. HOWEVER it is THE deck for learning the Tarot, no doubt about it, as most other decks use it as a template. Think of it as a reading primer. You may never "connect" to it on an emotional or spiritual level, but it'll give you the basic skills you need.

My first recommendation (if you'll allow me to shamelessly plug my section here) is go through the Tarot basics section here on these boards--if you haven't already. Set it to see posts 180 days back and you can read up from the Fool on. What you'll see there that you might not find in other books is how the cards connect. How the #3 cards connect to the Empress, for example.

That will help you get a feel for how the Tarot works. THEN, when it comes together, you can check out other decks here, on this forum (aeclectic has a whole section where you can look at samples from dozens of decks), and find one that's right for you. One that really speaks to you, one you can really connect to. Don't be discouraged, sometimes you just need to wait for things to fall into place.
 

EveAnna

Hi Michelle,

If you like the symbolism and the 'feel' of the Rider Waite perhaps you might be better with one of the Rider Waite clones. My primary deck is the Original Rider Waite but I also have The Diamond tarot, a clone, which gives a different feel to a reading. Or go to the decks section here and look through the cards, sooner or later something will catch your eye, you'll feel your stomach flip, and there will be your next deck looking back at you :) This is how it works for me, my other decks are all quite different - The Thoth, 1JJ Swiss, Astro Tarot, Parragon - but with each I knew I had to have them.
 

DeLani

I understand the feeling...My first deck was given to me. It was the Aquarian Tarot. While I was thrilled to have a "real" deck, I just couldn't connect with it. The people's faces were so white, like the were dead! So I traded it for another deck I liked better.
As for the Rider-Waite (or Waite-Smith, as I call it) being THE deck to learn with, I respectfully disagree. I do think that you should go with a "clone," one that uses the same symbolism and has scenes depicted on the minor arcana, so that you can learn from a wide variety of books. But the Tarot is meant to open the intuitive part of our mind, the part that likes pretty pictures. Go with what appeals to you visually, and learn from there. And, by the way, buy "Tarot for Yourself" and work through it. It is incredible!
Good luck,
DeLani
 

Michelle

Wow !!! Thank you all so much for your help. You have given me ALOT to think about . I think I expected to just be able to read the cards without learning the meanings.... and it has become obvious that I am not quite that intuitive (darn it) ! I am going to read the posts here and also read the many books I have purchased... Hopefully this will help.
I am so happy that I found this site, what a GREAT way to share and learn.

Talk to you soon :)

Love & Light,
Michelle
 

Michelle

Hello Friends,
I have to say that Thirteen's posts for beginners are FABULOUS !! (Thank you Thirteen). I also bought another deck... Connolly... I know everyone has strong opinions about this particular deck, however I was drawn to it. After purchasing the deck, I realized that this was the one I had my first reading with (many years ago). Hmmmm, coincidence perhaps?
I looked for the book Tarot for Yourself and the bookstore was out of it, I am looking at other stores today. Wish me luck !
I wanted to get opinions (please) on Eden Gray's Tarot books. They were recommended by a friend, has anyone read/used these books?

Well, I just wanted to share with you ... my recent Tarot adventures. Smile.
Thank you all for your thoughts and advice, and for welcoming me into the "family."

Talk to you soon.
Love and Light,
Michelle
 

deso

I'm so excited for you Michelle!!!! Have great fun with "your" deck!!!
 

Thirteen

Quote:Michelle (31 Dec, 2001 03:06):
Hello Friends,
I have to say that Thirteen's posts for beginners are FABULOUS !! (Thank you Thirteen). I also bought another deck... Connolly... I know everyone has strong opinions about this particular deck, however I was drawn to it.

You're welcome! As for the Connolly deck--it's a lovely deck and I actually think Connolly hits it very right with some of her images (6 of swords for example--very nice way to express that card with the woman crossing the bridge). Don't worry about controversy; you can join in that later when you become a curmugeonly old reader like some of us--then you too can snipe about all these darn newfangled decks and how readers just don't appreciate the classics anymore :)

You might want to check out Connolly's own tarot books by the way. She put out three, one for beginners, journeyman and master tarot readers. From what I understand, they're quite good and comprehensive.
 

Ceti

Quote:Michelle (31 Dec, 2001 03:06):
I wanted to get opinions (please) on Eden Gray's Tarot books. They were recommended by a friend, has anyone read/used these books?
Love and Light,
Michelle

Michelle,
Books are a lot like decks in that one person's treasure is another person's trash. Eden Gray is certainly worthwhile, but you may find that Connolly's books speak more to you, as Thirteen suggested. If you're like me, you're going to have to gobble up a lot of things, but it can be good to stick with the ones that resonate with your heart, at least initially. One of the wonderful things about Tarot is that it's a life-long endeavor. My first deck was the Rider, or Waite-Smith, as it's also known, and Eden Gray was helpful with this deck. However, that first deck was just a springboard for many other decks that I've grown to treasure. Connolly's "Tarot: A New Handbook for the Apprentice", is excellent! Plus, she has some great spreads. Happy exploring!

Ceti