Let it Go

[Bonny]

Hi there,

Would you have some ritual/prayer or crystal type suggestions or other holistic lifestyle ideas on how to Let it Go (a relationship or a chapter in your life... or even someone)?

I know that part of healthful living is to stop grasping , mentally as much as physically.
To grieve.
Now is the time for that - any ideas?
Bless ��

 

[Apollonia]

One simple ritual I like is the following. It is equally good for letting go of a relationship, job, life situation, etc. It combines the traditional “Cut and Clear” with the “Road Opener” energies, and I have found that it is good for sweeping out the old and bringing in the new.

Hello/Goodbye Ritual:

• Get a piece of paper (lined notebook paper is fine, nothing too fancy anyway is best for this).

• On the left side, make a header: “Good-bye to.”

• On the right side, make a header: “Hello to.”

• On the left side, enumerate all the things that made you unhappy about the prior situation, and which you will be so happy to never experience again (e.g, “Goodbye to being taken for granted” etc.).

• On the right side, enumerate all the things you want to bring into your life, including any things that were good about your previous situation (e.g. “Hello to feeling understood and accepted when I express myself” etc.).

• Next, tear the paper in half so that you have two sheets, one with the good things you are welcoming into your life and the other with the not so good things you are saying farewell to.

• Take the “Goodbye to” sheet and burn it over an ashtray or other fireproof receiver. Take the ashes to a crossroads (any four way intersection will do) and scatter them to the wind.

• After you have dispensed with the ashes, go back home and wash your hands.

• Then take the “Hello” sheet, fold it and place it in a drawer or box, somewhere where your wishes will be safe. I like to put a few sprigs of Rosemary and Lavender in with it if possible.

 

[Bonny]

One simple ritual I like is the following. It is equally good for letting go of a relationship, job, life situation, etc. It combines the traditional “Cut and Clear” with the “Road Opener” energies, and I have found that it is good for sweeping out the old and bringing in the new.

Hello/Goodbye Ritual:

• Get a piece of paper (lined notebook paper is fine, nothing too fancy anyway is best for this).

• On the left side, make a header: “Good-bye to.”

• On the right side, make a header: “Hello to.”

• On the left side, enumerate all the things that made you unhappy about the prior situation, and which you will be so happy to never experience again (e.g, “Goodbye to being taken for granted” etc.).

• On the right side, enumerate all the things you want to bring into your life, including any things that were good about your previous situation (e.g. “Hello to feeling understood and accepted when I express myself” etc.).

• Next, tear the paper in half so that you have two sheets, one with the good things you are welcoming into your life and the other with the not so good things you are saying farewell to.

• Take the “Goodbye to” sheet and burn it over an ashtray or other fireproof receiver. Take the ashes to a crossroads (any four way intersection will do) and scatter them to the wind.

• After you have dispensed with the ashes, go back home and wash your hands.

• Then take the “Hello” sheet, fold it and place it in a drawer or box, somewhere where your wishes will be safe. I like to put a few sprigs of Rosemary and Lavender in with it if possible.

Thank-you VERY much !!!!

I love the simplicity of this and the clearing symbolic action of the burning and washing of hands etc ... They REALLY work for me... I really appreciate this !!

Thank-you!!!
B

 

[Apollonia]

Thank-you VERY much !!!!

I love the simplicity of this and the clearing symbolic action of the burning and washing of hands etc ... They REALLY work for me... I really appreciate this !!

Thank-you!!!
B

Cool--you are very welcome, and I hope this ritual will work well for you!

A funny thing--about an hour after I posted, I was looking through a gigantic jar full of candles that I've had forever, in order to see what colors I needed more of. I had literally never totally emptied it out in years. At the bottom, I found a small folded up piece of paper. I unfolded it, and it turned out to be one of the "Hello" lists I had written in 2007 for this ritual, in order to get over a broken friendship.

 

[Bonny]

Oh my gosh!

That is beautiful!!!

And amazingly straight after I posted the first post to start thread,
I opened up my music app that randomly selects songs and guess the title of the song that played (Id never heard of before)?

'LET IT GO'!

Life eh , amazing !!! So beautiful and synergetic

Thanks for sharing,

B

 

[think]

Ah now that song is stuck in my head!

Good luck Bonny. I hope you're okay it's not nice to have to let go of things that we care about, whatever they are.

- I used to have a funny app on my phone that played a video of a roaring fire. I dunno why I even installed it but last year I was heartbroken and I couldn't stop thinking of this person and I looked at the app and started imagining taking the thoughts of them and throwing them into the fire. That worked for a while, but I guess it was some form of CBT. (I have a CBT qualification)

- So along the CBT theme is wearing an elastic band around your wrist or something like that. Every time you think about whatever it is you want to let go, snap the band and force yourself to think of something else. If it's too soon, maybe allow yourself 20 minutes a day to reminisce and think about the thing (what you resist persists, right) and then snap the band and remind yourself you will think about it again tomorrow.

- Another is to take a good memory you have, put yourself in the memory and feel how you felt, then imagine you took that memory and put it into a frame, you walk across the room and sit down and watch this memory. It was good and fun and you can see that, but you're just watching it.

 

[ravenest]

Hi there,

Would you have some ritual/prayer or crystal type suggestions or other holistic lifestyle ideas on how to Let it Go (a relationship or a chapter in your life... or even someone)?

I know that part of healthful living is to stop grasping , mentally as much as physically.
To grieve.
Now is the time for that - any ideas?
Bless ��

Would a song help ?


"Schism"

I know the pieces fit 'cause I watched them fall away.

Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing.

Pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion

Disintegrating as it goes testing our communication

The light that fueled our fire then has burned a hole between us so

We cannot seem to reach an end crippling our communication.

I know the pieces fit 'cause I watched them tumble down

No fault, none to blame, it doesn't mean I don't desire to

Point the finger, blame the other, watch the temple topple over.

To bring the pieces back together, rediscover communication

The poetry that comes from the squaring off between,

And the circling is worth it.

Finding beauty in the dissonance.

There was a time that the pieces fit, but I watched them fall away.

Mildewed and smoldering, strangled by our coveting

I've done the math enough to know the dangers of our second guessing.

Doomed to crumble unless we grow, and strengthen our communication.

Cold silence

has a tendency

to atrophy any

sense of compassion

between supposed lovers,



I know the pieces fit .....


- Tool.

 

[ravenest]

or a shorter excerpt from Tool (The Grudge )

" Give away the stone. Let the oceans take and

Transmutate this cold and fated anchor.

Give away the stone. Let the waters kiss and

Transmutate these leaden grudges into gold.

Let go."

 

[Bonny]

Ah now that song is stuck in my head!

Good luck Bonny. I hope you're okay it's not nice to have to let go of things that we care about, whatever they are.

- I used to have a funny app on my phone that played a video of a roaring fire. I dunno why I even installed it but last year I was heartbroken and I couldn't stop thinking of this person and I looked at the app and started imagining taking the thoughts of them and throwing them into the fire. That worked for a while, but I guess it was some form of CBT. (I have a CBT qualification)

- So along the CBT theme is wearing an elastic band around your wrist or something like that. Every time you think about whatever it is you want to let go, snap the band and force yourself to think of something else. If it's too soon, maybe allow yourself 20 minutes a day to reminisce and think about the thing (what you resist persists, right) and then snap the band and remind yourself you will think about it again tomorrow.

- Another is to take a good memory's he you have, put yourself in the memory and feel how you felt, then imagine you took that memory and put it into a frame, you walk across the room and sit down and watch this memory. It was good and fun and you can see that, but you're just watching it.

These are solid and such beneficial suggestions - awesome!
As I write, I have an elastic band on my wrist and I am using it to remind me to let go often. Thank you!!!
And the CBT work is great!!!
I have looked for an app but can't find one with fire only a candle ... That's good too - the flame is what benefits with this. Thank-you so very much !

I like the restorative practice of imagining stepping into a consciousness of joy and love!!
This is ️wonderful!!!

Thank-you!!!

B

 

[Bonny]

Would a song help ?


"Schism"

I know the pieces fit 'cause I watched them fall away.

Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing.

Pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion

Disintegrating as it goes testing our communication

The light that fueled our fire then has burned a hole between us so

We cannot seem to reach an end crippling our communication.

I know the pieces fit 'cause I watched them tumble down

No fault, none to blame, it doesn't mean I don't desire to

Point the finger, blame the other, watch the temple topple over.

To bring the pieces back together, rediscover communication

The poetry that comes from the squaring off between,

And the circling is worth it.

Finding beauty in the dissonance.

There was a time that the pieces fit, but I watched them fall away.

Mildewed and smoldering, strangled by our coveting

I've done the math enough to know the dangers of our second guessing.

Doomed to crumble unless we grow, and strengthen our communication.

Cold silence

has a tendency

to atrophy any

sense of compassion

between supposed lovers,



I know the pieces fit .....


- Tool.

This is very helpful Ravenest !! Thank-you!!

The words pick up on the way there can be aspects that we just can't work out so then it's time to let it go!!!

Thank you for taking the time to write these up!

B