Hello,
I found this spread in the Tarot Spread Forum Index. The author of it is mahimaisme. You may want to try it for your purpose.
first, you have to choose a significator...choose a card that describes the person as you view them/ respond to them (the purpose of thi will become clear later)
------------------------s-8------------
----------------------1-----2----------
-------------3----------------------4--
-------------------5------------6------
--------------------------7------------
ok....you lay out all the cards in the given order and card 8 goes next to the significator.
this card is the significator the tarot has chosen for this person. it serves as a useful comparison for you...to compare how you view the person or respond to him/her and what kind of a person he/she really is.... i find this helped to make me understand where he was really coming from better and helped me realise what i should change in my perception of him/how i respond to him so he can be happier for it...
now for the rest of the cards:
1and 2: what he holds close to his heart, what he values most.
3 and 4: what he ignores/tries to escape/repress...sometimes it could be because these are things that are painful for him to deal with...which will tell you where he needs help.
5 and 6: his weaknesses
7: what he contributes to your life and well-being.
Hope it helps.