Pauline Kilar
I just started a new relationship with a much younger man I met at my job; 12 years younger, to be exact. We like each other a lot; there was an immediate attraction. The connection we have so far is very intense, and it's scaring me. Things are moving very fast.
I decided to throw a relationship spread to see what I can expect. I was hoping for a clear-cut spread that said "yes, go ahead!" but what I got was a confusing muddle. Sort of like what's going on in my head.
Here's Umbrae's spread. I used the Victoria Regina deck.
Me:
Feels - Hierophant
Needs - 7 of Wands
Expected Outcome - 3 of Cups
Him:
Feels - 6 of Swords
Needs - 2 of Wands Rx
Expected Outcome - Judgement Rx
The relationship:
Core - 9 of Wands
Needs - Princess of Coins
What we can expect - King of Cups
Future of Relationship - Queen of Cups Rx
My interpretation:
The Hierophant tells me that I am very concerned about what others may think of this relationship. The age difference is pretty dramatic; he's only 19. I'm reluctant to tell my friends and family about this, and will be reticent about it unless the relationship develops into something more serious. I also read it as indicating that I'm older and more knowledgable (but not necessarily wiser!)
7 of Wands - ?
3 of Cups - I have positive expectations for the overall outcome of the relationship. The night before I met him I had a very strong premonition that I would meet someone important to me. I'm having trouble, though, deciding how much importance I should allow that premonition to have.
On his side, I see a need for transition (six of swords), a sense of escapism (2 of wands Rx), and a fear of being judged negatively by me or those close to me.
The Relationship:
9 of Wands - We have very similar, difficult, pasts. We're both making progress in our lives and defending hard-won gains. This card comes up for me a LOT, so I'm not surprised to see it in this reading.
Princess of Coins - We need to be more down-to-earth. Also, we have a lot of differences in interests; I'm very bookish and he's very practical. I see this card as indicating we have a lot to learn from each other, and this could be a strength and an advantage in our relationship.
King of Cups - This card often represents a healer or therapist. In one way, I read this as having to do with our troubled pasts. We might have an opportunity to help heal each other, since we seem to understand each other very well, especially with regard to our families and the difficulty we've had from out respective family situations.
The description of the King of Cups that's in the book for the Victoria Regina deck does indicate the possibility of a solid, stable relationship.
Future of Relationship - Queen of Cups Rx. Uh-oh. This seems like it could be very bad. The reversed Queen of Cups could signal an overwhelming emotional vortex, codependency, clinginess.
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Any feedback would be GREATLY APPRECIATED. As always, other people will see things that I've missed. Thanks for your help. - Kylark
I decided to throw a relationship spread to see what I can expect. I was hoping for a clear-cut spread that said "yes, go ahead!" but what I got was a confusing muddle. Sort of like what's going on in my head.
Here's Umbrae's spread. I used the Victoria Regina deck.
Me:
Feels - Hierophant
Needs - 7 of Wands
Expected Outcome - 3 of Cups
Him:
Feels - 6 of Swords
Needs - 2 of Wands Rx
Expected Outcome - Judgement Rx
The relationship:
Core - 9 of Wands
Needs - Princess of Coins
What we can expect - King of Cups
Future of Relationship - Queen of Cups Rx
My interpretation:
The Hierophant tells me that I am very concerned about what others may think of this relationship. The age difference is pretty dramatic; he's only 19. I'm reluctant to tell my friends and family about this, and will be reticent about it unless the relationship develops into something more serious. I also read it as indicating that I'm older and more knowledgable (but not necessarily wiser!)
7 of Wands - ?
3 of Cups - I have positive expectations for the overall outcome of the relationship. The night before I met him I had a very strong premonition that I would meet someone important to me. I'm having trouble, though, deciding how much importance I should allow that premonition to have.
On his side, I see a need for transition (six of swords), a sense of escapism (2 of wands Rx), and a fear of being judged negatively by me or those close to me.
The Relationship:
9 of Wands - We have very similar, difficult, pasts. We're both making progress in our lives and defending hard-won gains. This card comes up for me a LOT, so I'm not surprised to see it in this reading.
Princess of Coins - We need to be more down-to-earth. Also, we have a lot of differences in interests; I'm very bookish and he's very practical. I see this card as indicating we have a lot to learn from each other, and this could be a strength and an advantage in our relationship.
King of Cups - This card often represents a healer or therapist. In one way, I read this as having to do with our troubled pasts. We might have an opportunity to help heal each other, since we seem to understand each other very well, especially with regard to our families and the difficulty we've had from out respective family situations.
The description of the King of Cups that's in the book for the Victoria Regina deck does indicate the possibility of a solid, stable relationship.
Future of Relationship - Queen of Cups Rx. Uh-oh. This seems like it could be very bad. The reversed Queen of Cups could signal an overwhelming emotional vortex, codependency, clinginess.
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Any feedback would be GREATLY APPRECIATED. As always, other people will see things that I've missed. Thanks for your help. - Kylark