Yes, its nececary you do them however so do them during Xmas or even before and things will be fine.
4 of swords reversed
Am I right in my suspicion that if I dealt with all my other life problems it would my grieving of A's death ''easier'' ? ( i feel the stresses I have are making the grieving harder and that if these stresses were dealth with I could focus and grief in peace but this way I am so tense witch only adds to it )
Knight of Wands
No. It would be a temporary solution. It would make you feel better for a while and make the pain of A's death easier for a short period of time but it won't help in the way you hope.
Q: What does T think I feel for him?