The "universe" sure works in small ways at first :)

[CelestialHorse]

Funny story, something happened today similar but first I should have learned the lesson but a few years ago, I would get bit my mosquitoes, then I said to myself, "I rather see spiders" Then I saw more spiders, and less mosquitoes. Then I said "NO GO BACK TO MOSQUITOES!" Then I saw less spiders XD I guess the universe sure takes what you say everything. With the whole bed bug problem thing, I think it's over, for the most part, but I remember saying on here, and even FB and probably told a few people, I rather see spiders and mosquitoes instead. Oops. Universe caught me. I was sitting outside, really loving today, (I still do!) 70 degree weather, sky is blue, sun is high, (I got my first sun burn today YAY! Okay not really yay but I digress), out of the blue while I was reading anxiety for dummies, this black sorta fuzzy spider size of a quarter(I think about that size, I did a knee jerk reaction and I didn't get to get a good look), landed on my arm and flung the thing onto the beach chair next to me (I was sitting next to a pool). Then I took my sandal and smashed it to death. Ironic how I was readying about anxiety. I wanted to flee but a voice said, "Well what if a spider is hiding in your apartment?" I wanted to run yes, I wanted to curl in a ball and cry XD Usually my skin crawls too at the sight of spiders picture or real. Anyway, I think the universe heard me say I rather see a bed bug than a spider. Well the universe gave it to me. So I think I will just focus on bugs that I DO like..

I like butterflies, dragon flies, lady bugs, caterpillars, damsel flies, and heck honestly stink bugs doesn't bother me, but I guess it's because I can't smell. I don't even mind moths.

Apologies of mention of a spider made you cringe but here is a better story...

When I go for a walk around the lake at my grandma's, I am always thinking, I would love to see a dog or two today, and I swear MOST of the time I DO! It's great nad I love it

Ever ask for the small things and the universe grants it? Like the smallest things?

My question is, how come when you ask for something much bigger or even just a big thing, it takes longer for the universe to give it to you? My dad said I am not being consistent enough, maybe I need to focus more on the thing I want? What if I am focusing on it too much?

Heh I saw a cool quote today from tut about focusing on things you do have and pretend you do have it. Hmm sounds familiar.

I ramble a lot. Sorry. Just love chatting with you guys

 

[DownwardSpiral]

My question is, how come when you ask for something much bigger or even just a big thing, it takes longer for the universe to give it to you? My dad said I am not being consistent enough, maybe I need to focus more on the thing I want? What if I am focusing on it too much?

I keep thinking about your other thread on manifesting and hopefully soon I'll get a response posted there....but for now I'll answer this question here.

When you put out a request to the universe...especially a big request...you need to give the universe time to "work its magic". Think of it this way....suppose you decide to have a baby......even if you get pregnant right away (which not everyone does) it still takes nine months before the baby is born.

I've mentioned this here at AT but I'll break it down.....

I met a guy on the internet (ok this part I haven't mentioned) and fell in love with him. He talked about moving to CA and then it was one excuse after another of why he couldn't move there for at least three years. I wanted to be with him NOW! And this is why they say...be careful what you wish for. I thought about him/being with him/going to Illinois to be with him......forget the fact I've never been to IL and had no friends or family there......from the time I got up until I went to bed at night. A few of my friends at work suggested I put a mutual exchange ad in the Union paper. I couldn't bring myself to do that. That didn't matter.....someone in IL put an ad and my friends at work brought it to my attention. So I contacted this person and he told me what I needed to do. Even so this wasn't up to us....both bosses had to agree to the exchange. Then one day I get a knock on my door from a realtor asking if I was interested in selling my townhome. Why yes I was and now my home was on the market. It took about 6 months but I transferred my job, sold my townhome and moved with 2 of my kids to Illinois to be with this guy. The universe opened the doors and I fell through them....all the way to IL.

My point is I focused on the end result.....being with this guy. I didn't worry about any of the details....I just wanted to be in IL with this guy.

When you put out your wish to the universe.....the universe isn't going to drop the object of your desire on your doorstep. But it will put you in contact with people/places/objects etc....whatever it is you need to manifest your "wish". That can take time....and if you don't take the opportunities that come your way...then it can take even longer.

I'm trying to get back to CA and only recently I realised my focus isn't on Ca...it's on how much I hate being here. And something else I realised....if I don't show the universe I'm serious about going back to CA....why should the universe be serious in helping me get there?

 

[CelestialHorse]

I keep thinking about your other thread on manifesting and hopefully soon I'll get a response posted there....but for now I'll answer this question here.

When you put out a request to the universe...especially a big request...you need to give the universe time to "work its magic". Think of it this way....suppose you decide to have a baby......even if you get pregnant right away (which not everyone does) it still takes nine months before the baby is born.

I've mentioned this here at AT but I'll break it down.....

I met a guy on the internet (ok this part I haven't mentioned) and fell in love with him. He talked about moving to CA and then it was one excuse after another of why he couldn't move there for at least three years. I wanted to be with him NOW! And this is why they say...be careful what you wish for. I thought about him/being with him/going to Illinois to be with him......forget the fact I've never been to IL and had no friends or family there......from the time I got up until I went to bed at night. A few of my friends at work suggested I put a mutual exchange ad in the Union paper. I couldn't bring myself to do that. That didn't matter.....someone in IL put an ad and my friends at work brought it to my attention. So I contacted this person and he told me what I needed to do. Even so this wasn't up to us....both bosses had to agree to the exchange. Then one day I get a knock on my door from a realtor asking if I was interested in selling my townhome. Why yes I was and now my home was on the market. It took about 6 months but I transferred my job, sold my townhome and moved with 2 of my kids to Illinois to be with this guy. The universe opened the doors and I fell through them....all the way to IL.

My point is I focused on the end result.....being with this guy. I didn't worry about any of the details....I just wanted to be in IL with this guy.

When you put out your wish to the universe.....the universe isn't going to drop the object of your desire on your doorstep. But it will put you in contact with people/places/objects etc....whatever it is you need to manifest your "wish". That can take time....and if you don't take the opportunities that come your way...then it can take even longer.

I'm trying to get back to CA and only recently I realised my focus isn't on Ca...it's on how much I hate being here. And something else I realised....if I don't show the universe I'm serious about going back to CA....why should the universe be serious in helping me get there?

Ah yeah guess I have to be more patient but signs and what not are nice and trying to get up to doing small steps to getting what you want helps Thanks for sharing your story about CA. That would make sense how you have to focus on the actual thing and not what you are hating about right now or at least say okay I am grateful that I am in a safe place or something and try to be content but really focus on what you want? At least you got to be with the guy you want Good luck getting to CA one day! I had a sudden realization lately too, I HATE where I live but I did live with my sister and even though family is supposedly to care about you, love you and make you feel safe and NOT lonely, I realized I am less lonely where I am now then I was with her because I guess in a way because I don't have a connection to my roommates, I just do my own thing and didn't have to rely on someone else to make me feel better.

 

[DownwardSpiral]

(((((CelestialHorse)))))

One day you will realise happiness comes from within....don't let your happiness be dependant on anyone/anything else. "If only I had (fill in blank) then I would be happy." Don't put your life and your happiness on hold until you get that one thing. What makes you happy? Singing? Dancing? Acting Silly? A nice hot bath? A walk in the park? Painting your nails in your favorite color? Simple things you can do for yourself....to make you feel good....to laugh......to have fun. Try shifting your focus from if only I had to the simple pleasures you can do for you : )

Now add to that what will make you even happier....this is where you get to dream and send your wishes out to the Universe. Don't worry about the details....the less you try to control how things manifest....the more ways the Universe can provide the opportunities to you.

In the story I shared....and at the time I wasn't trying to "manifest" anything....I hadn't even read books or heard about the Law of Attraction.....I simply focused on being with that guy. And something I didn't add was that this guy had no money or his own home so it wasn't as simple as him saying hey quit your job and come live with me....I'll support and take care of you. And the move could of actually happened within 3 months. The person I did a mutual exchange with didn't want to move until Oct. and so the reason it took a little longer. Anyway I didn't worry about the "details". I let the Universe take care of that. And a big "be careful what you wish for" because the Universe cleared the way for what I "wanted" Not only was my life turned upside down, the relationship was a disaster from the get-go. In comparing why it was so easy to get here versus why it's been harder to get back to where I started from.....I realise my focal point is different. In getting here....I focused on being here. LOL this makes me think of "imagine as if you already have it" In going home....I want to go but the emotion isn't there (in CA) The emotion is here...I hate my job...I hate being here....the focus is here so it's as if unconsciously I'm telling the Universe I want to be here. LOL the Universe doesn't hear "hate"..... it keeps hearing Chicago over and over so it gives me more of Chicago ahaha to hate : )

 

[CelestialHorse]

(((((CelestialHorse)))))

One day you will realise happiness comes from within....don't let your happiness be dependant on anyone/anything else. "If only I had (fill in blank) then I would be happy." Don't put your life and your happiness on hold until you get that one thing. What makes you happy? Singing? Dancing? Acting Silly? A nice hot bath? A walk in the park? Painting your nails in your favorite color? Simple things you can do for yourself....to make you feel good....to laugh......to have fun. Try shifting your focus from if only I had to the simple pleasures you can do for you : )

Now add to that what will make you even happier....this is where you get to dream and send your wishes out to the Universe. Don't worry about the details....the less you try to control how things manifest....the more ways the Universe can provide the opportunities to you.

In the story I shared....and at the time I wasn't trying to "manifest" anything....I hadn't even read books or heard about the Law of Attraction.....I simply focused on being with that guy. And something I didn't add was that this guy had no money or his own home so it wasn't as simple as him saying hey quit your job and come live with me....I'll support and take care of you. And the move could of actually happened within 3 months. The person I did a mutual exchange with didn't want to move until Oct. and so the reason it took a little longer. Anyway I didn't worry about the "details". I let the Universe take care of that. And a big "be careful what you wish for" because the Universe cleared the way for what I "wanted" Not only was my life turned upside down, the relationship was a disaster from the get-go. In comparing why it was so easy to get here versus why it's been harder to get back to where I started from.....I realise my focal point is different. In getting here....I focused on being here. LOL this makes me think of "imagine as if you already have it" In going home....I want to go but the emotion isn't there (in CA) The emotion is here...I hate my job...I hate being here....the focus is here so it's as if unconsciously I'm telling the Universe I want to be here. LOL the Universe doesn't hear "hate"..... it keeps hearing Chicago over and over so it gives me more of Chicago ahaha to hate : )

Thanks Yeah I think when I get over depression/anxiety I can be happy innerwardly(that a word?)! I really love the book anxiety for dummies, great stuff. I am working on Depression for Dummies.

Ever personally tried a vision board? I wonder if that stuff works...hm...

Ahh that makes sense, and from what I understand the relationship didn't work out? Sorry to hear that But yeah it sure applies to be grateful for what you have and try to be happy where you are and try to not be negative. I had a realization a week or so ago. I was unhappy with my sister, sisters are supposedly make you feel warm, look out for you, and love you right? Well no my sister was horrid to me. Made me more depressed/anxious, and hating myself a lot and just holding a grudge. I know grudges are really bad but uh,I have a talent for holding grudges, I can hold them for years against someone :/ Anyway, I realized that even though I HATE where I live with my one roommate I don't like, I am less lonely here than I am with my own sister. Did that make me feel a little better? Yes, A LITTLE. Okay I should say more than a little, sure I get irritated with my one roommate, but she isn't directly hurting me or making me depressed. More just annoyed. lol.

 

[DownwardSpiral]

Keep reading your book(s) but work on being happy NOW : ) Read my post again....the part about the little things that make you happy.

Here's a little story I'll share......I was seeing this guy who was always busy so we spent very little time together. I got alot of "maybe we can get together Sat. night" and then no go. Or we would have plans and at the last minute he would have something else planned. He knew I loved to read and I had alot of unread books so he would always say....why don't you start reading your books? So I dug out some books and started reading. Of course at first I resisted because it really wasn't what I wanted to do. But I finished one book and then another and I started enjoying reading my books. And then on Sat. nights I got into a routine of taking a nice hot bath and while I was relaxing I put a mild facial peel on my face and a deep conditioner in my hair. Yeah at first I had to force myself.....I would of much rather been out with him but after awhile I looked forward to "me" time.

If you start with little things that make you happy......you will find yourself feeling happy more and more. Do not make your happiness dependant on anything else. When I get a job/boyfriend/money/car etc.....then I will be happy.


The boyfriend no it didn't work out.
Family.....I'm not close to my family and I don't have any sisters. Blood is thicker than water is a myth. Family will stab you in the back just as easily as a friend/stranger. LOL and no.....I get along with my family we just aren't close.

The hate....try to feel hate and happiness at the same time. You can't. Just a little something for you to think about....when you feel hate toward your sister/hold a grudge.....your sister doesn't feel it. She gets to go through her day doing whatever it is she does. The only one who feels it and is hurt by it is you....and if you're feeling hurt and upset you're probably not going to enjoy your day very much.

Yes I have made vision boards : ) I was living check to check and wanted to change my financial situation so I actually made two boards to work with the ebb and flow of the moon : ) One board showed money and financial freedom and had words like debt free. The other had money and a huge eraser erasing the word debt and it had pictures of credit cards being cut up. I just used Google Images to find pictures and then I printed the pictures.....cut them out and made my boards.

 

[CelestialHorse]

Keep reading your book(s) but work on being happy NOW : ) Read my post again....the part about the little things that make you happy.

Here's a little story I'll share......I was seeing this guy who was always busy so we spent very little time together. I got alot of "maybe we can get together Sat. night" and then no go. Or we would have plans and at the last minute he would have something else planned. He knew I loved to read and I had alot of unread books so he would always say....why don't you start reading your books? So I dug out some books and started reading. Of course at first I resisted because it really wasn't what I wanted to do. But I finished one book and then another and I started enjoying reading my books. And then on Sat. nights I got into a routine of taking a nice hot bath and while I was relaxing I put a mild facial peel on my face and a deep conditioner in my hair. Yeah at first I had to force myself.....I would of much rather been out with him but after awhile I looked forward to "me" time.

If you start with little things that make you happy......you will find yourself feeling happy more and more. Do not make your happiness dependant on anything else. When I get a job/boyfriend/money/car etc.....then I will be happy.


The boyfriend no it didn't work out.
Family.....I'm not close to my family and I don't have any sisters. Blood is thicker than water is a myth. Family will stab you in the back just as easily as a friend/stranger. LOL and no.....I get along with my family we just aren't close.

The hate....try to feel hate and happiness at the same time. You can't. Just a little something for you to think about....when you feel hate toward your sister/hold a grudge.....your sister doesn't feel it. She gets to go through her day doing whatever it is she does. The only one who feels it and is hurt by it is you....and if you're feeling hurt and upset you're probably not going to enjoy your day very much.

Yes I have made vision boards : ) I was living check to check and wanted to change my financial situation so I actually made two boards to work with the ebb and flow of the moon : ) One board showed money and financial freedom and had words like debt free. The other had money and a huge eraser erasing the word debt and it had pictures of credit cards being cut up. I just used Google Images to find pictures and then I printed the pictures.....cut them out and made my boards.

Tried replying on a laptop...I hate laptops..haha anyway... (I get a little ADHD..I'm a mess :/ ).

That's a pretty cool story about what happened! So I guess there is a such a thing of holding on too tight or focusing too much? I wonder if that's possible because they always say focus, Focus, FOCUS! Maybe I focus too much or something? Heh I love how a friend said "When you give up the guy you want, they always come around". But shouldn't you focus on what you want, or tell the universe once and let it go? I think writing did help before, I should get into it. I am wanting to read up on Tiny Buddah (sp?) and ZenHabits Plus I want to read up on the subconscience.

I agree with that about family, and friends. These days you can't trust anyone :/ Sad. Sometimes you can't trust yourself. Blood thicker than water is definitely a myth. (As for friends, I am a little jealous of friendships that seem to have gone for so long and stuff, sure I have one friend I had online since middle school and another I known since middle school but at the same time, I want a friend I can hang out with IN PERSON). I think reason why I haven't had any friends because well I told my not true friends to get lost, or they hurt me and left me, (Is it really not your fault when they make you feel like it is your fault things ended or its them?)

Yeah, I dunno maybe there is something in my subconscience that has me holdling grudges. I have noticed some grudges let go a little bit, sure I still have some hurt and anger but not as strong. I wonder why, it just sorta happened. Maybe it's the ego protecting me even though it's really not. I guess you can forgive but you still don't want the person around you right? I sorta forgave a few people, but I wouldn't want them to friend me or anything.

Funny story, I am more "needy" and a little braver, (I'm the total opposite of a risk taker, I'm just very cautious)when drunk, and I stupidily requested a friendship from a horrible horrible friend I made online, he accepted it. Next day I realized what i done and de-friended him. He really put me down I actually don't have feelings for him, I did at one point.

Neat! How is the money situation going for you?

 

[DownwardSpiral]

"But shouldn't you focus on what you want, or tell the universe once and let it go?"

I really don't know. I've seen it written to spend time everyday focusing on what you want.....and I've also seen it written to think of what you want...and then let it go. Which one works better...or both work as well...who knows.

"(Is it really not your fault when they make you feel like it is your fault things ended or its them?)"

Without knowing the details I really can't say. I think both sides usually will play some part....and it's always easier to blame someone else than to take blame for something. Not all relationships last forever...friends included.

"I have noticed some grudges let go a little bit, sure I still have some hurt and anger but not as strong."

It takes time : )

"I guess you can forgive but you still don't want the person around you right? I sorta forgave a few people, but I wouldn't want them to friend me or anything."

To this I say YES! Forgiving helps you to move forward/on in your life....to get past a situation. It's ok if you choose not to be around them.

"Funny story, I am more "needy" and a little braver, (I'm the total opposite of a risk taker, I'm just very cautious)when drunk, and I stupidily requested a friendship from a horrible horrible friend I made online, he accepted it. Next day I realized what i done and de-friended him. He really put me down I actually don't have feelings for him, I did at one point."

We all make mistakes.....the important thing is that we learn from them : )

The money situation is good : ) You can read more here: http://tarotforum.net/showthread.php?t=195574&page=2 Post #18