Your meanings or mine?

[Padma]

I guess I am wondering if maybe (this is getting deeper into how it works I think) it just doesnt matter HOW the message is getting across to the person who is meant to receive it as long as its getting there. After all, life isnt all tidy, easy and clear.

Yup! And messages come to you in all kinds of ways - from something someone inadvertently says, or overhearing a convo on a bus, or randomly seeing an advert that has a title line that really resonates with you - messages come any which way, not just via tarot, and so even if you think they are misreading the cards, they are likely not. It's just another way for the Universe to get its messages to you

So - they still have a message you need to perhaps consider - though, as with all advice, you are free to take it or leave it!

 

[nisaba]

That's so interesting, Nisaba. Given this, what's your take on backup or replacement copies of a deck?

I'm not sure what you mean. I won't waste money on buying backups while there are still decks out there that I want and don't have. In the past I have bought replacements for decks which a former partner of mine destroyed or disposed-of. But I don't understand how this links into anything I said?

 

[JylliM]

I'm not sure what you mean. I won't waste money on buying backups while there are still decks out there that I want and don't have. In the past I have bought replacements for decks which a former partner of mine destroyed or disposed-of. But I don't understand how this links into anything I said?

You were talking about how your particular copy of the deck that you and your friend own was easily identified by you because it felt like yours. Also that it reads well for you whereas your friend's made no sense. So, if you owned two copies of a deck, would they develop separate languages/identities? This seems to be the case for Aunty Anthea.
If so, I wonder if there's a way of transferring the energy from an old deck to a new copy. I have read somewhere the advice to place each card over its replacement. Anyone tried this?

 

[nisaba]

You were talking about how your particular copy of the deck that you and your friend own was easily identified by you because it felt like yours. Also that it reads well for you whereas your friend's made no sense. So, if you owned two copies of a deck, would they develop separate languages/identities?

Oh. I was focussed more on what I'd said about whether to re-interpret someone else's reading for you. No. No, they don't. I lost one deck years ago, but remembered it well. When I replaced it, it was with a copy gifted to me by someone who knew I missed it, and he had used it for years so it felt like him and wouldn't read for me. I shuffled it until it felt like mine, and it started reading like mine from that point on.

If so, I wonder if there's a way of transferring the energy from an old deck to a new copy. I have read somewhere the advice to place each card over its replacement. Anyone tried this?

Just use the new copy. The old copy was "flavoured" by you using it - the new one will be, too.

 

[JylliM]

Thanks Nisaba

 

[Annabelle]

So accept the reader's reading. Not all readers are good readers, but all decks speak to their own owners, not their owners' clients.

THIS. A million times this.

I've only had a paid reading once, and I confess, I wasn't even looking much at the cards -- I was watching her, the reader -- her hands, her face. I was listening to her. Of course, she was using a deck that was largely unfamiliar to me (something with dragons on it), so that may have been part of why I wasn't tempted to think more about the cards.

 

[TarotRNJess]

I have found this thread very interesting. I practice reading on people because I'm finding the only way to truly learn is by actually doing. I had done a reading for someone and they sent what I had written down for them to another reader to have it verified and then never gave me any feedback or talked to me again. This was upsetting to me for a couple reasons: I am not in any way a good reader, but it is feedback and communication with the querant that helps me learn. And secondly because the deck I used I have grown close to, and then I was so worried that I said too much of what I felt the cards were telling me and too little of the traditionally accepted meaning (although I didn't feel they contradicted one another). So reading all of your guys thoughts on this has been very interesting for me. Thank you.

 

[SunsetKay]

Just use the new copy. The old copy was "flavoured" by you using it - the new one will be, too.

^^ This. I had to buy a replacement deck for my Ludy Lescot and it took a while to read the same for me. The same images that I had looked at so often seemed completely different and unfamiliar. It was strange. I soldiered on and now it reads the same.

 

[Barleywine]

I have found this thread very interesting. I practice reading on people because I'm finding the only way to truly learn is by actually doing. I had done a reading for someone and they sent what I had written down for them to another reader to have it verified and then never gave me any feedback or talked to me again. This was upsetting to me for a couple reasons: I am not in any way a good reader, but it is feedback and communication with the querant that helps me learn. And secondly because the deck I used I have grown close to, and then I was so worried that I said too much of what I felt the cards were telling me and too little of the traditionally accepted meaning (although I didn't feel they contradicted one another). So reading all of your guys thoughts on this has been very interesting for me. Thank you.

That seems like kind of a "cheap shot" to me, your querent sending your observations out to be "validated." That querent just should have gone to the other reader in the first place if that reader was thought to be trustworthy enough to pass judgment on your results. I don't have a problem with getting second opinons, but one that's biased in advance like this doesn't seem very honest. On your second point, it's possible the other reader was a "by the book" type, and your more intuitive interpretations didn't square with that. So perhaps your input was simply dismissed without any thought of allowing rebuttal. Querents who try this game would seem to wind up more confused than they were before the initial reading.

 

[TarotRNJess]

That seems like kind of a "cheap shot" to me, your querent sending your observations out to be "validated." That querent just should have gone to the other reader in the first place if that reader was thought to be trustworthy enough to pass judgment on your results. I don't have a problem with getting second opinons, but one that's biased in advance like this doesn't seem very honest. On your second point, it's possible the other reader was a "by the book" type, and your more intuitive interpretations didn't square with that. So perhaps your input was simply dismissed without any thought of allowing rebuttal. Querents who try this game would seem to wind up more confused than they were before the initial reading.

It felt like one but oh well. I was more disappointed that I didn't get any good true feedback and then was worried I needed to be more "to the book". I'll keep learning.