Let's get to know the Queen of Cups

Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 29 Mar 2004, and now archived in the Forum Library.

Jypsie	29 Mar 2004
Today, I pulled the Queen of Cups in an advice position regarding a relationship. How would one approach a relationship as a Queen of Cups? She is one I think I know so well, but I suspect there are some deeper layers to her psyche that I may not have begun to ponder yet...

Thirteen	30 Mar 2004
Well, she certainly approves of the most emotional and romantic approach to relationships. She's not going to interested in action, nor is she going to be impressed by possessions or cleverness. The Queen of Cups is the Queen of Hearts. She wants poetry and roses, picnics in the park. Yet for all that, hers is a mature love. She gives all her heart and she wants to give it forever. If she gets into a relationship it's with visions of marriage and children and "till death do us part." She doesn't believe in one-night-stands. She's very spiritual and what she feels is more important than what she knows. This relates to her psychic abilities as well. You can't lie to her or fool her. Her instincts are impeccable. Unfortunately, she's all emotions and that means a lack of logic, reason or common sense. All the bad things you can imagine (jealousy, hysteria, crying jags, moodiness) come along with all the good things (empathy, kindness, warmth, humor). She's as likely to be one of those women who lay in bed, sighing that they "just can't get up today...." as one of those saintly women who are always able to forgive the worse in people and see the best. Quite a Queen, all in all.

Indigo Rose	30 Mar 2004
While it's true the Queen of Cups can see right through people, because she is deeply psychic, she can become the Queen of denial by popping on her ever rose-colored glasses. Her heart so longs to love and be loved, that she is willing to deceive herself about people. She can choose not to see what is there, and instead create a fantasy world....which looks just the way she wants it to.

miss_apples	30 Mar 2004
Are you the queen of cups Jypsie? In that case it could mean that you need to relax and just be yourself. The Queen of cups is kind of like my alter ego. I am definatly the Queen of wands but others see me more like the queen of cups. Probably because when I deal with others my watery moon sign shines through.

Jypsie	30 Mar 2004
You might be right about that, miss apples!! I pull queen of wands for myself as well, but I might be perceived by others as kind of cuppish. =) I'm going through one by one now and trying to get to know the court cards better, because they always stump me... grrrr.

miss_apples	30 Mar 2004
The court cards used to stump me to. But usually they stumpted me because I always wanted to think of them as a person when they would come up in positions that couldnt possibly mean a person. So Ive told myself that I cant always think of a court card as a person.

Jypsie	30 Mar 2004
In this case, I feel like I understand the Queen of Cups in the position it fell in... it just made me wonder if there was something more to her that I had never thought about before, because in this situation Queen of Cups behavior seems the *least* appropriate. I like your interpretation, to be myself.... I will as always!

lark	30 Mar 2004
Quote: Originally posted by Jypsie Today, I pulled the Queen of Cups in an advice position regarding a relationship. How would one approach a relationship as a Queen of Cups? You would be a good listener. Understanding and supportive. You would give truthful advice. And keep everything that is said to you confidential.

Tarotmyst	31 Mar 2004
Maybe the queen of cups, although loving and giving, would know to look after and love herself first and above everyone else? Like she understand to give herself the same attention that she would other people in order to be the best person she can for herself and others.

jmd	31 Mar 2004
Jypsie makes two points in the opening post which may not necessarily be inclusive. I will also try to avoid any repetition with what has been already mentioned by the wonderful responses so far. The first point made in the opening post is that the Queen of Cups was drawn in an 'advice position' with regards to a relationship. Here, I may read this, as I sometimes do, with reference to the MBTI - which for the Queen of Cups I personally associate with ISFJ qualities. Ie, the advice may be that you need to not dither but rather turn inwards {I}, look at what is actually there {S} (not what you would like to be there), and make, importantly, a decision {J} on the matter by trusting your inner feelings {F}. The second point made relates to the question asked, viz.: 'How would one approach a relationship as a Queen of Cups?' As a Queen of Cups, one may approach the relationship realising that one is very much in charge of the emotional realm, and that the other may therefore need a little nurturing with regards to their emotional maturity. Also, as Queen of Cups, one knows that there are vast resources from which to emotionally draw and contribute to the relationship. One needs to be on guard, therefore, not to drown out the other with this abundance. As a thread which has but started, I am quite interested to read further varied views...

firemaiden	31 Mar 2004
Quote: Originally posted by Jypsie Today, I pulled the Queen of Cups in an advice position regarding a relationship. How would one approach a relationship as a Queen of Cups? She is one I think I know so well, but I suspect there are some deeper layers to her psyche that I may not have begun to ponder yet... Your question Jypsie, contains your answer within it -- "deeper layers .... you have not begun to ponder" -- She is the lady in the reflection at the bottom of the pool, she is "deeper layers" -- Take a look at Crowley's Queen of Cups with its pool and interplay of refracted/reflected light -- the card is an invitation to ponder the deeper layers of psyche, come dive into the pool of water and see if you can find me, she seems to say... She might also warn, contrariwise, not to get mired in the depths, a warning to return to the surface for balance.

WalesWoman	31 Mar 2004
She is all that pondering, she is also about inspiration to create something of beauty, but she has that lid on her cup in RWS, so I think she tries to keep her emotions or love contained, or holds on to what is within her cup so that she won't lose it as she tries to figure it all out or get lost in her thoughts. I''m not being any help here am I? I think in the advice, if it was for me, I would be looking at what the relationship needs, try not to get lost in my feelings, but keep a lid on them to be as objective as possible and try to come up with a creative way to make it be as beautiful and meaningful as possible. Most likely my whole romantic nature would follow that drift, you know, candlelit dinners, poetry, nice music to create an enchanted evening. Reality is never like that, but ... it never hurts to come up with some sort of fantasy. Be inspired!

Dexter	02 Apr 2004
I hate to admit this but the Queen of Cups is one of my least favorite cards. I always feel this overwelming flow of emotion when it turns up. In an adivse positon I would say it means not to let emotions rule decisions, keep your head and think things through. The other person in the relationship may not be ready for the same type of emotional relationship. The fact that the cup is lidded in the RWS card to me means not to let things overflow. Think about how you are going to express your emotions in this relationship. Dexter

eastarot	02 Apr 2004
Since I dont know the surrounding cards or your past with respect the relationship, the advice the Queen of Cups can offer, I feel, is love without expectations. Sometimes the Queen can be a little intense in her love, and may expect the same kind of love back from her partner and if she doesnt get what she expects, she gets troubled. Like water, the message seems to say flow with the love, dont hold on too tight, dont expect the same love back....every one is an individual.

Jypsie	02 Apr 2004
I never really thought about the lid on her cup. I always thought the king was the one in control of his emotions, the queen is a little more sentimental. But that is very true, and logically seems like the best advice! I seem to pull the King of Cups a lot for him these days... maybe now we should get to know the King?

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