VisionQuest
Helvetica said:Who says anything about the only reason a relationship might not work? It might not actually break up the relationship at all, though it might strain it (see my post on my uncle and aunt). It is not my intention to offend and I fail to see what is offensive in wondering if my lover, husband or wife - or prospective - might be gay, if my intuition might be saying it is the case. You are presumably not in a heterosexual relationship so the question does not arise where you are concerned. But for those gay people who are and who might be discovering (or starting to admit) a new sexual orientation to themselves, and the partner senses it - don't you think it natural that the partner want to know?
I was referring to dating. "If you are dating someone, and you think that the only reason it wouldn't work out is if the other person is gay" .
Dating in the early stages when you were still trying to ascertain if a relationship could work with them.
I wasn't talking about marriage. The only two situations I addressed were early dating, and a possibly questioning child.
If you are married to someone, and you don't know that person's sexual orientation, then that isn't the marriage's only problem. If you have to turn to Tarot cards rather than be able to communicate with your spouse, your marriage is in trouble anyway...and wouldn't it be wiser to address that than to read Tarot cards? My feeling remains, that trying to ascertain someone else's sexuality is a very limited and limiting way of looking at things.
I respect everyone's opinion on this, and I'm aware that even other gay people might disagree with me. It's just how I feel about the issue. No judgements.