PaulaB said:
I have been asked to find out if from a male friend if his girlfriend is having an affair.
Hi Paula
My take on this? If it were me, I wouldn't do it. I would see it as the psychic equivalent of peeping in somebody's window, or drilling a hole through the wall of a public lavatory. (Ewwwwww...)
If your friend has doubts about his girlfriend's fidelity, I think he really should talk to
her about it, and not involve you. For several reasons. Would acquiescence to his request compromise your personal ethics? That's not a very nice thing to ask of you, is it. And if I were the girlfriend in question, I wouldn't really feel comfortable in a relationship with someone who asked a 3rd party to, (in effect) spy on me, instead of just confronting me about his suspicions to my face.
(Unless he's done this already, and the girl either told the truth (no affair) but he wasn't convinced, or lied through her teeth. In any case, it's still up to him to find out the truth for himself.)
And then there is, of course, the blatantly obvious fact that cards can be
wrong. Wouldn't it be lovely if you actually did the reading for him, interpreted it as such that the girl was engaging in all sorts of clandestine activities, and... in fact... she was not?
Or, what if the reading came back negative, and the girl was actually carrying on with wild abandon?
This would place you in a very uncomfortable, embarrassing position. In situation 1, your information, if wrong, would more than likely be a contributing factor to whatever action the boyfriend decided to take, be it angry accusations, breaking up, or worse. If, on the other hand, situation 2 were the case, you would be giving the poor bloke a false sense of security. He would eventually find out the truth, and once again, there would be YOU, smack in the middle.
And if your reading were dead on, would you not be encouraging your karma to loiter about in some dark alley where it might have no business being?
My advice would be to leave it as their problem, and don't make it yours.
You have less chance of losing both integrity and friends that way.
I hope this doesn't sound cruel, but please, do think through all the consequences.
All the best, DE