Annoyed

[Little Hare]

Okay i have to post this because i'm in a p*ssy mood, i know its juvinile but i'm frustrated with myself. My sister in law asked me to read her cards today, i told her sure no problem, but the reading may not be objective because i know her really well... She said fine... well i pulled out the cards and do you think i could read for her?....

Nope i tried three times and got hardly anything... She could read the cards for herself... which had me flawed and which i thought was great. (i'm actually going to buy her a deck now) She then gave me a reading and was spot on... and she has no prior knowledge of tarot.

I know i shouldn't be annoyed due to the fact that i couldn't read for her but i can't help it Does anyone have any advice about what i can do to stop being a brat about it....

 

[Liralen]

Well, maybe this wasn't about your reading abilities at all, maybe your sister in law was supposed to find her way to tarot through you. So there might have been a block preventing you from giving her a reading - and your reading abilities are just fine!

 

[Little Hare]

i never thought about it like that! thanks I'm actually really excited for her and am going to buy her a deck as a surprise

 

[Sulis]

Don't read for family.

I think you were just too close so you couldn't read the cards.

I've tried reading for family before and I can either get nothing out of my cards or I get stuff that I really don't want to know.
There are some folks heads that I just don't want to delve into and family members fall into that bracket

And as Liralen has said, now your sister in law has had a chance to work with the cards and realised that she may be very good at it.
So it turned out to be a good reading after all

 

[MeeWah]

peace_pixie: Reading for family can be difficult to nigh impossible, similar to reading for self because of the relationship & accompanying lack of detachment. & worse of all: family members more apt to shoot the messenger than a stranger would. So my general advice is to not (in the same way I tend to advise do not lend $ to family nor friends unless one willing to give as a gift).

I read for family upon request & offer whence 'prompted'. Thus far, not had any complaints. My kids the only folks who largely do not want me reading for them. They say I am "scary", & I know that to be because I end up knowing more than they want me to know. They have, however, mellowed out over the years & do ask if I can "see" whatever.

I think your giving a deck to your sister-in-law a wonderful gesture! This strikes more as an opportunity to encourage her interest & efforts than anything else.

& of course, do refer her to Aeclectic Tarot

 

[AJ]

what deck were you using, and what deck will you gift her with?
What a wonderful gift to yourself if you end up with a real live tarot buddy!

 

[Umbrae]

One: Reading for family and friends sucks. Personal bias can kill objective results.

Two: So what was the pressure? Lay the cards out - get up and walk away, who says you 'gotta have the answer pronto?' give yourself a break. Go dust a chandelier or something…peel a grape…that undue pressure to KNOW and KNOW NOW will bring your reading career to a halt sooner or later.

Tois: Like what deck was it? It weren’t the Voyager and it weren’t Thoth. So when you gonna get a real deck…? Hmmm? images that don't resonate should be avoided.

 

[Little Hare]

thanks everyone, i was just being a sook about it (i'm going to blame my aries nature here

The deck i used was the universal waite; i got it about one month ago, which is something i thought i would never do, but i find myself gravitating to it more and more! i've given readings on here with pretty good results (so i've been told)

In regards to reading for family i have read for my cousin before and that was fine (except she knew what the cards already meant even tho she had no prior knowlede of tarot or oracle so i gave her deck!)

But my sister-in law actually did mention how close we are (which was nice) and i explained to her why i couldn't get any results.

Thanks everyone... i have alot better perspective about it

you guys are fab!

 

[Little Hare]

what deck were you using, and what deck will you gift her with?
What a wonderful gift to yourself if you end up with a real live tarot buddy!

i was using universal waite, which is slowly drawing me closer and closer in... i'm going to gift her with a copy of universal waite, because in her words.... "the cards are so beautiful, are easy to read and the backs with the stars are gorgeous!"

 

[Miren]

That's also a good deck for a beginner, since it's got classic imagery, but it's prettier than the plainer RWS.


I would agree with others that it seems like this experience was more for you to introduce her to the cards than to do a specific reading for her. Perhaps this will create a new bond between the two of you.