In general, I prefer to see cards as "action items" than just as things that happen to us but much depends on the question. If the spread position is advice, it can have two meanings: the advice to accept something even if it's unpleasant, or the advice to do something. Even Death, Tower and Judgement can be read both ways.
Death - yes, accepting that something has died for us and letting it go. I like to stress the active part of letting it go, letting it pass. A dream, a feeling, a project, a hope - if we continue to cling to it, we'll get emotional sepsis. This thing has grown fungus and is old and rotten. Let it pass away by itself and if you can - remove it.
Tower - this is one of the few cards where I feel that something happens over which we have no influence - that's the core meaning of the card. We can read it as "shake that boat" or "break that bond" or "rattle that cage", but this is really the one card where often all we can do is accept it and hope that ultimatively, it's for the best. It's an earthquake card, and the best advice may be to take cover and wait until it's over, collecting inner strength to deal with the aftermath.
Judgement - indeed one of the most difficult cards of the deck to read for me. It has something really terrible to it, the calling of the angel and the rising of the dead. I always think of the
anastasis or harrowing of Hell - do the dead want to be called? how do we deal with this deep inner call that makes our former conceptions crumble?
There is joy and comfort in this card, the epiphany and deeper understanding, but it is definitely an uncomfortable card with this meeting of life and death, heaven and earth. Tower and Death don't frighten me, Judgement sometimes does.
As advice, I'd read it as the need to rid ourselves of every pre-fabricated conception, to reflect upon ourselves down to our bones, and to open our ears to the angel's trumpet. This angel, more often or not, is the truth that we knew but pushed back, or karma that comes back to bite us. And it can be a difficult truth. It may call us to do something we tried to avoid. I feel Judgement is very deeply related to ourselves, who we are and how we have lived our lives. We are the angel, we are the dead, and we are the spectator who sees them rise.
I hope I make sense somehow.