Oh, (((kazza)))!
I went through a similar situation: a reader told me back in September that a love interest would get a clue and want to pursue a romantic relationship with me when he returned from his overseas travels (he was overseas at the time). Well...when he came back, a series of events led him to hit me with the dreaded, "I need some space."
I promptly contacted her and told her she was wrong, that one of the cards she chose referred to another person he was interested in, etc. etc. Chile, I PERFORMED!
Fast forward to last week, when I was doing my annual New Year's Eve house cleaning. I came across the reading and saw that I had read the dang thing incorrectly...and that she may not be wrong after all. *hanging head in embarrassment*
I say all this to say: some readers are good at interpreting time (e.g., this will occur in 2 years, or 3 months, or 5 days). Most just read what they see and have no idea of WHEN said phenomenon may occur (or not). One thing I had to remember (and am a work in progress on) was that tarot/Universal time is not necessarily our human time...and energies change, and change again.
I also agree with berrieh: often its our actions that determine our path, not what we think about a situation.
So while I encourage you to try and heal yourself in the wake of such devastation (been there, done that, got the soundtrack and the T-shirt), keep in mind that delay doesn't always equal defeat. This guy could come back 10 years from now...and with the way technology continues to evolve, you could still gestate safely well into your 70s.
Just my $.02.
T.
EDITED to add: honest feedback is always encouraged by most readers, and it's not a good feeling to hear that what you said ended up not coming to pass (unless it's a negative occurrence that was seen in the cards at the time of the reading). Of course, I can only speak for myself.
kazza said:
I have been to many tarot readers/Psychic and found very few good ones. I thought I found an excellent tarot reader/Psychic who became a good friend a couple of years she moved overseas and no longer hear from her to question her anymore. Her readings seemed precise she spoke to spirits and picked up on things going on around me and some of things she told me did come true but one of the major things she told me about my relationship with my partner, that we would marry, have another child, maybe work together and we would be happy has just been tossed in the mud. He has left me with no chance of a reconcilation and I am so devasted I based alot on what she told me and really based my life around it now I've lost all my faith in the spiritual industry and now feel that maybe psychics just pick up what on your mind, what you'd like to happen in your life and sometimes some of things they say you can manifest through positive thoughts like "The Secret" says and you think that they were a great reader, unless the future is just not planned or you can change the course of your destiny. I had a dream last night in which I questioned her about my readings and said you told me you were never wrong (which she always said) and she was very upset and told me well that's what she had seened at the time and that was it. Did this dream mean that the future can change. I would really appreciate anyones comments or insight into what they think.