MissCW said:
I didn't tell my friend about my feeling about the childhood thing - because I didn't feel it was right to go there, after all he wasn't asking for a reading, she was. So I can't really confirm whether he has or he hasn't. Is this the right thing to do in this situation? I was sort of thinking until he tells her, its none of our business really.
Actually, I disagree with Dulcimer (which is rare--Dulci and I are usually on the same page). I've done readings where the querent asked about a relationship or something else...and the cards, like this time, went in their own direction. The cards shouted a warning or a feeling to me that was very powerful.
And that means it's important for the querent to know. Why would the cards tell me anything they didn't want passed onto the querent? It's the querent's READING, not mine. I'm just the interpeter. The message is FOR THEM!
Think about it: Wouldn't YOU want to know if your boyfriend had a mom who was making his life hell? Who might make your relationship hell? Who might not approve of it and get in the way of it? Wouldn't you want your card reader to tell you: "You need to deal with the mother issue or else this relationship might be in trouble"?
ESPECIALLY with the TOWER there, which says to me that this guy might know his mom's going to be a problem--but he hasn't told his girlfriend that. He's keeping it secret. Maybe dealing with Mom all on his own or lying to himself about it being a problem. So he is NOT going to tell his girlfriend and the message won't get to her until it's too late for her to do anything about it.
Now if you'd been reading for the guy, then it wouldn't be your business to tell this stuff to his girlfriend. It'd be his reading alone, his message to pass on to others or not. But as you were reading for her, this was something important that the cards (or powers behind the cards) think she needs to know. That feeling in your gut only confirms it. At least to me.
I don't mean, by the way, that you stomp on into it shouting, "Watch out for his mother!" You say, "Listen, I know this reading was about the relationship, but I'm getting a really strong feeling here. I think your partner has some issues with his mother and it's going to affect how he relates to you, and how this relationship is going to go. Do you see anything like this?"
IMHO, if the cards gave you this message, it's because YOU can go into it and help and warn this person when no one else can or is willing to--you can bring up something she maybe suspects but doesn't want to admit (i.e., that mom has to be dealt with?). So yes, in my opinion, it very much is your business to tell your querent what you're seeing even if it seems unrelated to the question or querent.