herself
This is long - apologies in advance.
[mods, I'm not sure if this belongs in the 'Your Readings' section, or, because I'm not really after interpretations of the content of the reading, if it's ok here? I'm giving some detail to add to the picture, but what I'm really interested is some feedback on not so much the content but the other stuff....]
So I belong to a private "new mums" support group on Facebook. They are all currently doing a bit of a Pay it Forward, and I decided to take the plunge and offer some readings to the group. This was a fairly big deal for me, as there are a few people I know in "real life" on the forum, and up until, well, now, tarot has always been a personal pursuit that only a few people know I am interested in. I got quite a few responses, and the readings have been going really well. No problems there.
Most of the readings so far have been via email, but I've got three people interested in a face-to-face reading. I had the first one today.
The reading started off as a three-card draw: Past: Hierophant, Present: Emperor, Future: Justice. At first, I was thinking, "what the hell?"
Then, (I love this about tarot), after talking about the cards it became apparent that Justice in the future position represented a big decision, between the Hierophant, which represented the country she had left behind, and the Emperor, representing NZ. (She'd chosen the Connolly deck, and in this the Emperor is depicted sitting outside under a clear sky with a snow-capped mountain in the background. The Hierophant meanwhile was inside a stone church that reminded me of Christ Church cathedral in Dublin - lived there for 3 years a while back).
Essentially things haven't been working out and she and her husband are trying to decide if they pack it all in and head back to Ireland.
The cards showed essentially the core situation as she already understood it, but felt like a static summary of the present. I decided to pull two more cards for each option, effectively a 'pro' and a 'con' for each. I don't do "clarifiers" as a rule, but the intent was to treat this as more of an expansion to the original draw.
The pros and cons for each were, again, things that she and her husband had already discussed, with one that's quite important to them.
There was a cup of tea as well, some chatting about families, and of course the interruptions of our respective babies (I brought mine with me, and she was surprisingly good - no grabbing at the cards on the table, etc).
So I'm pleased that I was able to eventually articulate the above, and that it bore some (actually rather significant) reflection on the major issue going on for her right now.
She said even though the cards didn't point her in one direction over the other "it was good to hear someone else say it".
So - I suppose I could call the reading a success. But - there are some things that I wasn't happy with personally, and I guess it does boil down to some of the differences between reading a draw that you perform at home, and reading one as you're sitting in front of another person.
For example:
* when I do an online reading for someone my approach is to journal a bit with the cards, find the patterns, and then write up the end result as a coherent whole. Obviously this isn't possible when you are sitting across from someone, and while we got there in the end I felt like I stammered a fair bit and tried on different approaches with the cards until we got the "snick"; one finally felt right and fit.
i.e. before I knew about her dilemma, I started off describing the cards individually. You know: "the hierophant commonly stands for..." "the emperor often represents", etc. etc. At first it felt really awkward, and a bit like I was grasping for a thread to string all three together. Only when I mentioned certain things (e.g. the Hierophant in juxtaposition with the Emperor can show lofty ideals vs practicality in the real world) did she say "aha, that must be 'the big kiwi dream' which didn't quite eventuate", which then sent me off making different (more relevant) connections.
To those of you who read face-to-face with strangers - is this how your readings progress? Do you start very generally and then move to the specific as things warm up?
And as you are "warming up", how do you keep from sounding like an idiot? (I suspect I didn't, not really, but it just feels a bit that way.)
* I'm also a bit frustrated that the draw, and the reading, just seemed to sum up what she already knew. I've had a couple of readings lately for people where this has happened. They ask for advice, and I tell them the situation (ergh). They've all been very kind and said I've given them food for thought, much to mull over, etc, but personally I still would have hoped to give them a little bit of help in moving forward.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not about "advice for advice's sake" - but I did wonder how much value they were really getting from me just reiterating / clarifying what they are going through. In cases like this, do you just leave it at that? Or should we always be trying to pass on some parting caution or encouragement?
* In terms of the verbal delivery aspect - I'm interested to know if you tend to censor/control yourself? Do you try to slow down your speech, for example? "Compose" your words as you might compose a sentence? To do this, are there things that you keep in mind while you're speaking?
Or do you just blurt it all out?
Whew, I think that's everything. Thanks for listening
[mods, I'm not sure if this belongs in the 'Your Readings' section, or, because I'm not really after interpretations of the content of the reading, if it's ok here? I'm giving some detail to add to the picture, but what I'm really interested is some feedback on not so much the content but the other stuff....]
So I belong to a private "new mums" support group on Facebook. They are all currently doing a bit of a Pay it Forward, and I decided to take the plunge and offer some readings to the group. This was a fairly big deal for me, as there are a few people I know in "real life" on the forum, and up until, well, now, tarot has always been a personal pursuit that only a few people know I am interested in. I got quite a few responses, and the readings have been going really well. No problems there.
Most of the readings so far have been via email, but I've got three people interested in a face-to-face reading. I had the first one today.
The reading started off as a three-card draw: Past: Hierophant, Present: Emperor, Future: Justice. At first, I was thinking, "what the hell?"
Then, (I love this about tarot), after talking about the cards it became apparent that Justice in the future position represented a big decision, between the Hierophant, which represented the country she had left behind, and the Emperor, representing NZ. (She'd chosen the Connolly deck, and in this the Emperor is depicted sitting outside under a clear sky with a snow-capped mountain in the background. The Hierophant meanwhile was inside a stone church that reminded me of Christ Church cathedral in Dublin - lived there for 3 years a while back).
Essentially things haven't been working out and she and her husband are trying to decide if they pack it all in and head back to Ireland.
The cards showed essentially the core situation as she already understood it, but felt like a static summary of the present. I decided to pull two more cards for each option, effectively a 'pro' and a 'con' for each. I don't do "clarifiers" as a rule, but the intent was to treat this as more of an expansion to the original draw.
The pros and cons for each were, again, things that she and her husband had already discussed, with one that's quite important to them.
There was a cup of tea as well, some chatting about families, and of course the interruptions of our respective babies (I brought mine with me, and she was surprisingly good - no grabbing at the cards on the table, etc).
So I'm pleased that I was able to eventually articulate the above, and that it bore some (actually rather significant) reflection on the major issue going on for her right now.
She said even though the cards didn't point her in one direction over the other "it was good to hear someone else say it".
So - I suppose I could call the reading a success. But - there are some things that I wasn't happy with personally, and I guess it does boil down to some of the differences between reading a draw that you perform at home, and reading one as you're sitting in front of another person.
For example:
* when I do an online reading for someone my approach is to journal a bit with the cards, find the patterns, and then write up the end result as a coherent whole. Obviously this isn't possible when you are sitting across from someone, and while we got there in the end I felt like I stammered a fair bit and tried on different approaches with the cards until we got the "snick"; one finally felt right and fit.
i.e. before I knew about her dilemma, I started off describing the cards individually. You know: "the hierophant commonly stands for..." "the emperor often represents", etc. etc. At first it felt really awkward, and a bit like I was grasping for a thread to string all three together. Only when I mentioned certain things (e.g. the Hierophant in juxtaposition with the Emperor can show lofty ideals vs practicality in the real world) did she say "aha, that must be 'the big kiwi dream' which didn't quite eventuate", which then sent me off making different (more relevant) connections.
To those of you who read face-to-face with strangers - is this how your readings progress? Do you start very generally and then move to the specific as things warm up?
And as you are "warming up", how do you keep from sounding like an idiot? (I suspect I didn't, not really, but it just feels a bit that way.)
* I'm also a bit frustrated that the draw, and the reading, just seemed to sum up what she already knew. I've had a couple of readings lately for people where this has happened. They ask for advice, and I tell them the situation (ergh). They've all been very kind and said I've given them food for thought, much to mull over, etc, but personally I still would have hoped to give them a little bit of help in moving forward.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not about "advice for advice's sake" - but I did wonder how much value they were really getting from me just reiterating / clarifying what they are going through. In cases like this, do you just leave it at that? Or should we always be trying to pass on some parting caution or encouragement?
* In terms of the verbal delivery aspect - I'm interested to know if you tend to censor/control yourself? Do you try to slow down your speech, for example? "Compose" your words as you might compose a sentence? To do this, are there things that you keep in mind while you're speaking?
Or do you just blurt it all out?
Whew, I think that's everything. Thanks for listening