Dain
Your friend is a bit full of himself isn't he? LOL
I don't do yes/no questions not because I'm unsure of my abilities but because I am absolutely sure of them! In the case of yes/no questions I have found through experience that I am absolutely unable to get an accurate reading!
For me to do a yes/no reading I might as well just abandon my cards in order to flip a coin. The results of a coin toss would be no more or less accurate than I am with a yes/no question with the tarot.
Every reader has their strengths and weaknesses. If someone is good with yes/no questions and wants to answer them that's fine, but I have the utmost respect for those of us who are aware enough of ourselves and our own abilities that we don't feel the need to try to do something we know we can't.
My friend can be a little rigid with his views. Then again, so can I, so even though we agree on many, many things, when we disagree, sparks fly sometimes.
You expressed my feelings exactly! Why use the tarot if you can have a yes/no answer by flipping a coin, or using a pendulum, or another form of divination?
Not that there's anything inherently wrong with asking yes/no questions (Many tarotists who carry a deck at all times, use one card for a quick yes/no answer). It's just that I think a reader ought to make the sitter aware of all the information that can be obtained thru a reading, when a question is asked correctly. After all, a reading (especially a professional one) is about the sitter, not the reader (within certain, logical limits, of course).
I partially agree with you, and I partially agree with your friend. A good reader will answer a yes/no question with whatever information they are provided by the cards. Sometimes the answer will have a blatantly clear lean towards either yes or no, sometimes additional information is provided because that's what is needed, and etc. I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that a yes/no question cannot be answered... seems a little bit controlling of the "force" so-to-speak... which could be interpreted as a cop-out in some instances, sure. Some people are just geared to control so they can make sense of something, while others feel just as in control letting the cards speak outside of a pre-defined context (or an "ill-defined" context, as a yes/no question is as suggested by popular opinion).
Yes, I agree that many answers tend towards one or the other end if there is a question (as opposed to other types of readings). If the sitter insists on a yes/no answer or wants the reader to "cut to the chase" after s/he has made the sitter aware of all the options... well... then... I don't know. Not having much experience with reading for other people, I'm not the right person to answer that question.