mysticangel_001 said:
Ugh...I hate when I get hit with questions like this...HELP!
The Death card is a card of stripping things down to the bare bones, putting an end to things and starting fresh. I think the card is trying to tell YOU how to get her to put aside a lot of things that aren't relevant to the question and get to the real issue.
Here's what I think the card wants you to say to her:
Tell her to imagine that everyone else is out of the picture, all problems gone, and only she exists. If there was nothing else to consider, not the ex, not the cancer, not the new boyfriend, would she keep the baby? Does she want to be a mother? Because once that baby is born, the person she was will be dead, and the person she will be, a mother with a child, WILL be her entire future.
This is not a new car that you can trade in down the line. It's not toy or a pet. it's a child. And every year it will grow, and each and every minute of each and every day she will have to make it her life. Is she ready to feed, diper, soothe, care for the baby when sick? Is she ready to baby proof the house? Deal with temper tantrums? Consider day care, nursery school, elementary school, high school, college?
This is a lifetime commitment. And this and ONLY this is what she needs to think about. If she keeps the child, the person she knows now will die and she will be reborn as the mother of this child.
If all the other factors were erased, not there, would she want to do this? Because if she wants that enough to keep the child, all the other factors can be dealt with, though it might be wise to add that she will never be able to break up completely with her ex, as he will have a say in that child's life as well...forever.
Bring it down to the bare bones. To what really needs to be seen in this question of "death" and "birth." Both you and she are seeing everything else, all the problems and complications. But you're not seeing what will be born out of this "death." And you need to make her see that, to ignore the other stuff and really look at what the future holds for her if she takes that road to motherhood.