Do you read professorially, Marina?
Nope. I read for friends and fmaily for the moment, but even in this case I try not to be unecessarily blunt.
You say something (anything), and they go - aha, i know what you are saying; but she is hearing what she wants to hear, never mind what you are saying.
Sadly, there's nothing you can do about it. I used to work in a customer service in a bookstore, and many times I said "no, we don't have this book, it's out-of-print" only to have the client asking me "...but can you get it for me?"
No. It's OUT-OF-PRINT. But if I yelled at the client for being stupid, not only we would lose him, but he would complain to my boss who would complain to me.
Honestly, this is the price of working with/for people. But in my experience working with people, the hysterical ones who refuse to listen are a minority - a horribly LOUD minority. Most of people have the sense not to shoot the messenger.
Don't know, maybe i should be more loving, but thinking of what time i spent listening to BS and thinking to myself "is it that you are blind?
Again, from my experience, when the client became too difficult to deal with and I felt I was losing my temper, I'd pass the phone to someone else. Usually my boss (who was a good boss and helped with the clients instead of telling you to fix the problem yourself, lol)!
I think it can work the same way with a reader and a sitter. If the querent is coming for the 10th time, with the same issue, and refuses to listen to what you are saying, you should clearly tell them that you are not working well together and that you'll indicate another trustworthy reader for them to get a 'second opinion' from. People love getting second opinions. Psychologists do that, when they realize they cannot help that patient.
I just disagree with the strategy of being blunt to everyone just to punish the loud and annoying minority. But you don't have to sacrifice your peace of mind for someone who just wants an audience to her hystrionic attacks.
Ugh. Sometimes, after such readings - i think that "normal" people get on without readings - they sob a bit, speak to a friend or two and they go on with their lives; while we get the the - willingly or not - delusional ones.
ROFLMAO!
And I quote: "I don't sugar coat the "medicine," but after you can have a spoonful of honey and a snuggle."
Honest and encouraging. When I see the Tower I don't see nor say "There is something false in your life that's going to crumble down and it's probably going to be painful."
I say "There is something false in your life that's going to come crumbling down and it'll probably be painful, but this is something that is necessary and you can build something better and stronger to replace it" <-- Spoonful of honey.
I think we all should be honest and encouraging, I just think we need to be careful about how we communicate our honesty, that's it all. In your previous post, it seemed to me your attitude was not so careful in this aspect, but now that you have explained it better to me, I can see your point.
And that's just with one card, I never give just the negative, that's not what Tarot is about. Tarot is about finding solutions to your problems and I know even the most negative cards in the deck have something positive and helpful if you see past their intimidating nature. I will be honest about the problem and I will always add the solution.
I agree. I just said that we need to be careful on HOW we deliver the message, because many people come to us in moments of vulnerability. "Feelings are everywhere -- be gentle" (J. Masai)
