Hello Aeon418,
I thought I was saying what you're saying...
"Old school" in the sense of having to choose between good and evil (God or Satan, Man or Woman, Eve or Lillith etc). To love one of them is to reject the other, there is no alternative to choose both. 0=2 means the opposite, you can't have one without the other, i.e. the "old school" monotheistic (Judeochristian?) view is an illusion.
I was describing the development from the old, limited way of thinking about love to the new, from an EITHER this or that choice, to a this AND that choice. Solidarity is the recognition that cooperation is an alternative/complementary to competition. However it is only possible, it is only cooperation (and not domination) if the mutual agreement is done between equals, who are not restricted by the bond between them, but allowed to express their unique Will in balance. Only then will there be synergistic effects or "transcendence". Parasitism is also a form of "cooperation" and an ok strategy for survival, but if we want to gain spiritual development beyond that of a tapeworm, mutualistic symbiosis is the way to go (no offence, tapeworms).
"Eat or be eaten" is a popular phrase used to describe competition in nature. As in religion, our views of nature are colored by what we project onto it. For a long time -and still, people think that "survival of the fittest" means a constant violent competition. This is true from a narrow and lower perspective, but evolutionary fitness can be about a lot more and in the end "what survives, survives" (I am what I am). Cooperation is simply a different form of competition and arises absolutely everywhere in nature (from cells, to bodies, to herds, to ecosystems). It is essential for life on earth to even be possible. I.e. "love is the law, love under will" is also a perfect description of evolutionary development within ecosystem dynamics.
I think it makes good sense for the "this OR that"/competition view of love to be left on the card, but in the background. There will always be levels of our experience which are still ruled by the more "primitive" or "limited" ways, as long as we are still living in a world with finite resources. But our main attention can shift towards the much more vast opportunities to expand our conciousness through solidarity with a greater whole -both when it comes to aspects within us and with other people.
Am I being more clear or just confusing things further?