sacredashes said:
I'm not argueing that the wife would indeed feel hurt, even angry to hear his confession about his feelings about another woman. They have been married for 4 years afterall; unless she's indifferent towards him, of course she would feel hurt. Who wouldn't?
Then again, did you not say its about rebirth and beginnings? Who's to say this challenge won't strengthen their marriage if they can overcome the core problem. Is he an incorrigible cheat in all that time she's known him or is this the first time she's heard this? More importantly, would it help her if the reader jumped to that conclusion for her?
I wouldn't dare jump to that conclusion... It is not in the cards... What is in the card is her feelings, and the fact that only she can decide how her relationship is going to change... And whether or not he HAS cheated is moot, she feels that EVERYTHING is suspect... so he might as well have cheated... That's why she is wondering if the relationship is over... that's up to her... what the reader can tell her is that is up to her... it is different and will NEVER be the same... She must now make a decision.
I think its potentially harmful to fan the fire with allegations that he has already cheated on her when we don't even know if he has.
Here's the interesting point... It doesn't matter. He has expressed feelings for another. His feelings have cheated her, there is no doubt about that.
Imagine telling her that... and the marriage is already shaky... and the poor guy maybe trying to come clean with her about his attraction for someone else which may or may not be a passing thing. We don't know.
Imagine telling her what? the truth??? If the marriage weren't shaky, he wouldn't be giving his heart away to another. The reader did not do that, the sitter's lover did. Whether his infatuation with this other woman is to be culminated in "sex" or not is entirely moot to what the sitter in this case must decide.
If she chooses to pursue the decision to take it as a done deal and the marriage is over; then yes she has the right to leave him but if she is consulting a reader to ask for clarity; perhaps she isn't sure herself and its unethical for a reader to color the reading with our own biasness. That is all I'm saying. Ash
Hold on, Ash... what bias??? She feels cheated, whether he had sex or not doesn't change the way she feels... So, if she suggests for a second that, oh, but, wait, he didn't actually cheat on me... My question to her would be, then what has changed??? Why are you sitting here in front of me if you don't think he cheated on you... Oh wait.... she's sitting there because he has taken her love and given it to another and honestly, Ash, as a reader you can flower up and colour what you see in the cards however you like, but he cheated on her. That's the crux of it.
One doesn't have to have "sex" to cheat on their lover. Telling them they're in love with someone else is about the same.
Like I said though, her relationship is changed... but the cards don't say it's over, they just say it is never going to be the same.
That's an important distinction to make. But don't kid yourself... physical act or no... he cheated.
) well with the Death rx it might turn into one of those interminable soaps