Another problem that I find is that some people think that there is a perfect person out there, who will be everything they desire, and who will fufill every need they have.
And this is the 'person' they always ask about.
The problem is that this person does not exist.
They are a construct of that persons imagination.
There will be someone out here (many somebodys, probably) with whom they can live a happy and fulfilled life. But that person will have faults and flaws that the questioner will not like, just as the questioner has their own faults and flaws.
Because, of course, the person they might get together with will be real, not some imaginary perfect person.
And every relation ship has to be worked at and compromises have to be made.
The people who seem to do this most often are young women who have not yet been in a serious relationship, who believe in some kind of romantically perfect 'soul mate'.
I have a hard time with this sometimes, because the person they are asking about does not exist, and sometimes, when they have met someone, and he turns out to be less than perfect, their answer is not 'well, it has to be worked at, we have to compromise, etc...' but rather 'he was not the one, I need to look elsewhere...'
Yeah, I have trouble with it.
Sometimes I have been asked the 'Will I meet Mr. Right?' question, and have answered 'No, you will meet Mr. Ok, but he will fart in bed and laugh about it, and much of the time you will irritate each other. But if you work at it you will be happy together.'
Somehow they don't seem to want that answer.
