3 of Wands clarified by 5 of Cups

[Leviosa]

Did a relationship spread regarding my efforts to reboot a deep relationship I used to have.

I got 3 of Wands clarified by 5 of Cups in the position of "where the other person stands." These cards are solely about her position/possible thoughts on the situation. I have come to 2 possible interpretations but I would like more insight.

I see 3 of wands as representative of her waiting for me to respond to what I perceive as her mixed signals. Basically she is allowing me to have control over what happens next. Followed by the 5 of cups, she misses me and is hoping that I take the opportunity to show continued interest in developing our relationship, as I am the one who reached out first after so much time.

However, I can also see it as meaning that she is looking for something else entirely and has been disappointed to the extent of having no interest in my next attempts at outreach. Basically, my interpretations are either extremely optimistic or very pessimistic. Please provide more insight with your interpretations of this combo.

 

[Thirteen]

Focusing on what isn't there rather than what is

You need to remember that a clarification card isn't the same as a "tell me more" or "What else?" Card. If you lay down a clarification card, what you're saying to the cards is "I don't uinderstand what you said. Could you say it differently?" For next time, if you are after learning more, say, aloud "Tell me more" before putting down another card. Because if you think, "I don't understand, clarify" that is what you get. Not "more" just something said more clearly.

So, if the 5/Cups was a clarification card, then it's saying the SAME THING as the 3/Wands. What do they both have in common? Well, they have in common that the person is preoccupied with what isn't there rather than what is. 3/Wands the person is gazing out to sea waiting for the ships to come in. But not paying attention to the what they have there on shore. 5/Cups the person is crying over the spilt cups, but doesn't see that there are cups still standing behind them.

I'd say that she is preoccupied with whatever is missing. Something that was there and now doesn't seem to be there. Given Wands/Cups that would likely be chemistry/passion/intense feelings. Is it gone, well, yes. Something you had originally isn't there anymore. But that doesn't mean there is none to be had. There is still plenty there, she (and maybe you) just have to stop brooding on what's gone. THEN she will see what is still there.

Does that help?

 

[Leviosa]

@Thirteen

I'm going to edit my original post. The position of those two cards was about "Where the other person stands" and "other" would refer to her. I mistakenly used the pronoun "they."

To clear it up, the position these cards fell in was all about her. In addition, I see what you're saying about clarification cards. While I did use the word clarify aloud before drawing the cups, in my mind I was asking for more info. To be technical, I asked for clarification through further information. Does this change what the cards dealt me?

 

[Thirteen]

@Thirteen

I'm going to edit my original post. The position of those two cards was about "Where the other person stands" and "other" would refer to her. I mistakenly used the pronoun "they."

To clear it up, the position these cards fell in was all about her.

I realized that after I'd posted. I edited my post to reflect that. Interpretation is still the same, just about her rather than both of you.

 

[Leviosa]

I realized that after I'd posted. I edited my post to reflect that. Interpretation is still the same, just about her rather than both of you.

I also edited my post. Please consider the question I posed at the end.

 

[LifesALoofah]

Did a relationship spread regarding my efforts to reboot a deep relationship I used to have.

I got 3 of Wands clarified by 5 of Cups in the position of "where the other person stands." These cards are solely about her position/possible thoughts on the situation. I have come to 2 possible interpretations but I would like more insight.

I see 3 of wands as representative of her waiting for me to respond to what I perceive as her mixed signals. Basically she is allowing me to have control over what happens next. Followed by the 5 of cups, she misses me and is hoping that I take the opportunity to show continued interest in developing our relationship, as I am the one who reached out first after so much time.

However, I can also see it as meaning that she is looking for something else entirely and has been disappointed to the extent of having no interest in my next attempts at outreach. Basically, my interpretations are either extremely optimistic or very pessimistic. Please provide more insight with your interpretations of this combo.

I understand that this post is about clarifiers, but, I don't read mine like everyone else, soooo... With that being said, you can take what I'm about to type with a grain of salt. :-D

3 of Wands + 5 of Cups for re-booting a relationship?

It's as if it's saying that someone was planning to reach out for a long time (in context with the situation), but, when it happened, it brought bad memories back-up for the person involved. It's not all bad or all good (from what I can tell. I don't have the whole reading). But, in a reading like that, I, myself, love to re-shuffle and re-read after a few days. Cups to me deal with memories and feelings. If a person has plotted to reach out to me and I know the situation had some hurt to it, I'd immediately go into my hurt feelings and try to figure-out if I wanted to pursue this or not, and that could be where she is at right now.

I'd say she's reminiscing about what ended and is trying to figure-out what took so long to reach-out.

That's what my intuition is saying, but, I don't have all the cards. Good luck with everything!

 

[Leviosa]

I understand that this post is about clarifiers, but, I don't read mine like everyone else, soooo... With that being said, you can take what I'm about to type with a grain of salt. :-D

Thanks for your thoughts! What exactly is your method of reading clarifiers?

 

[Leviosa]

But, in a reading like that, I, myself, love to re-shuffle and re-read after a few days.

What exactly do you mean by "in a reading like that"? When re-shuffling and re-reading do you ask the very same question using the very same spread?

 

[Thirteen]

It changes it a little that you after "more info" but (IMHO) the message is very clear. She is too busy mourning/focusing/gazing at what went wrong/what was lost to see what is still there. And that's really all there is to it. If she was looking/waiting for someone new, then you'd have had the opposite: 5/Cups (mourning loss) 3/Wands (looking for something fresh and new). But you've the opposite. 3/Cups--gazing out, hoping to see passion's return. But it doesn't seem to be there or coming back. 5/Cups, morning the loss and not seeing what is still there.

One thing I'd like add: Asking the cards for help is like asking your mobile phone to show you a map. It tells you where you are, and how to get where you are going. But you are the one in the driver's seat. The cards can't get you to your destination. Only you can get yourself there.

I've given you my interpretation of these cards, but I'm not you, and I don't know her. If you feel it's wrong, then go with what feels right. But whatever you conclude is the message of these cards, please avoid the trap of doing reading after reading on this relationship in the hopes that one of those readings will tell you that everything has been magically fixed. The job of the cards is to give you information so you can take appropriate action and get what you want, not to addict you to readings

 

[LifesALoofah]

Thanks for your thoughts! What exactly is your method of reading clarifiers?

Some people use clarifiers as a separate reading itself or that the cards are simply repeating themselves. I've never had this experience with my cards as long as I've been reading. When I ask for clarification, my cards aren't nitpicky: they EXPAND. They'll be like, "Okay, okay... Maybe I ain't gave you enough. Let me show you SOMETHING ELSE, or SOMETHING ON THE OTHER SIDE of the situation, & that'll help you grasp it better." My cards look at clarifiers as cubes. I.E. Okay, you gave me one side of the story, what about the other side, huh? Give me the whole cube, dude! & They will! LOL! The cards never lie, remember that! :-D

What exactly do you mean by "in a reading like that"? When re-shuffling and re-reading do you ask the very same question using the very same spread?

When a reading deals with humans & emotions, I re-read after a few days or even a few hours. When you pay attention to your cards and get more acquainted with them, you realize how inconstant the human emotion is. I've read situations where it was soooo positive a day ago, & then, by the 3rd day, it's total crap! Emotions fluctuate and can usually settle in some days and weeks. That's why I come back to readings when people are in their emotions. They aren't thinking rationally and it'll reflect in the reading. Remember: the cards can only pick-up currents and what MIGHT happen if it keeps going in a certain direction. Just because a reading is negative today doesn't mean it will be negative tomorrow, feel me?

That's all I meant, LOL.