Detecting Untrustworthy People
think
If someone shows you their true colours, believe them.
We tend to make excuses for people's bad behaviour, or even downright ignore our own judgement or perceptions!
We tend to make excuses for people's bad behaviour, or even downright ignore our own judgement or perceptions!
Padma
That is great advice, Think
What you say is true. I have also heard that people will tell you exactly who and what they are in the first 20 minutes you meet them - so it pays to listen well.DownUnderNZer
Most serial killers, if not all, never usually alter the course to kill you once you are in their grasp.
Not all use deception though.
However, if you research those that are very well known, on the most part those ones did and over and over again because they knew it worked.
Bundy with the pretense of broken arms and Dahmer with the lure of money for photos etc.
The Teddy Bear (think that is right) killer looked like a harmless gentle giant offering rides. His last victim was only let go because she was the spitting image of his very first victim.
The Pennsylvania serial killer going back decades (partially featured in Silence of the lambs I believe) deliberately targeted girls with disabilities or if they went missing - no waves. Eg Hookers.
Only one survived in the hell pit hole he imprisoned them in for the purpose of producing whatever sick fantasy he had in his head. They were slaves, dehumanised, and possibly breeding stock I think.
Sometimes people cannot be read - and by the time their true nature comes out it is farrrrrr too late.
DND
Not all use deception though.
However, if you research those that are very well known, on the most part those ones did and over and over again because they knew it worked.
Bundy with the pretense of broken arms and Dahmer with the lure of money for photos etc.
The Teddy Bear (think that is right) killer looked like a harmless gentle giant offering rides. His last victim was only let go because she was the spitting image of his very first victim.
The Pennsylvania serial killer going back decades (partially featured in Silence of the lambs I believe) deliberately targeted girls with disabilities or if they went missing - no waves. Eg Hookers.
Only one survived in the hell pit hole he imprisoned them in for the purpose of producing whatever sick fantasy he had in his head. They were slaves, dehumanised, and possibly breeding stock I think.
Sometimes people cannot be read - and by the time their true nature comes out it is farrrrrr too late.
DND
DownUnderNZer
Israel Keyes would have to be one of the most fascinating serial killers, to me, as he had his own serial killing kits buried in different locations throughout the USA and some times for up to about 3 years untouched. Organised and meticulous to a fault even in his day job as a Carpenter. His victims were absolutely random and both male and female - his only rule was no children.
Then there is the "Counterfeit Serial Killer" that likely killed over 200 women and was only found out through being busted for counterfeiting. He had an IQ of 160 and became bored with serial killing, so was counterfeiting on the side.
Now for him to have got away with so many murders over many years makes me wonder about the level of deception he used to do it and cover his tracks from the law.
I would like to know more about what made him tick etc and why the FBI failed all those girls and their families by not putting some kind of pattern together.
One girl being dragged into a car and not seen by a witness is plausible, but at least once it was possibly two at the same time. Was hitch hiking involved or pulling a gun on them?
As far as I know he has never talked about it.
DND
Then there is the "Counterfeit Serial Killer" that likely killed over 200 women and was only found out through being busted for counterfeiting. He had an IQ of 160 and became bored with serial killing, so was counterfeiting on the side.
Now for him to have got away with so many murders over many years makes me wonder about the level of deception he used to do it and cover his tracks from the law.
I would like to know more about what made him tick etc and why the FBI failed all those girls and their families by not putting some kind of pattern together.
One girl being dragged into a car and not seen by a witness is plausible, but at least once it was possibly two at the same time. Was hitch hiking involved or pulling a gun on them?
As far as I know he has never talked about it.
DND
celticnoodle
I didn't read every post, but these 3 that I did read I think are very accurate with what can help.
I have/had a person in my family who is really awful to me for some unknown reason. Always was. (jealousy? perhaps). I couldn't stand to be around her as a result. She just isn't very nice to me. But, sadly, when I would go back home to visit--she would of course be there. She's family after all. But, I will tell you--whenever a visit to home was coming up, I'd get ill. My stomach would be totally upset and I'd have heartburn and headaches. Coming home after the visit was pretty much just as bad--but really heavy on the headaches and heart aches.
so, my advice is that if you feel any kind of upset around a person, pay attention to those feelings and if possible LIMIT your exposure to them!
Pay close attention to your gut feelings, as Padma mentioned. They rarely are wrong!
Barleywine
Then there is the simplest test of all:
Q: How do you know someone is lying?
A: Their lips are moving.
Q: How do you know someone is lying?
A: Their lips are moving.
DownUnderNZer
Debra
Crappy people often have reputations to match.
