Tanga
I agree, which I discussed briefly above. The reader is of great importance. But how do you know that you found the right one that actually will take the time to care of your question accordingly? It's not always easy to know.
Ofcourse - nothing can ever be perfect. Sometimes as human beings we just get it wrong.
And have to clean up and move on. Lol
As for being sure of flexible and careful reader who will take these things into consideration - like any other arena in life - you don't know unless they come recommended as such - right?
Your rules are very good. I think it's super to have your own framework for what you will and will not do. Personally, I look at the questions separately and try to find some balance. But some questions I'm not overly happy to answer or pull for, even love spreads sometimes. Depends upon the situation.
Yup - I will still sometimes look at these questions - as I said - Depends how and why they're asking...
And hence I may offer to re-phrase their question "more advantageously" to them.
I hate love questions - all those "feeling" and "what is he thinking" questions.
IMO - go and ask them yourself would be more fruitful. I'm not up for "mind reading" - I think in the long run that's not empowerment in the relationship. I can offer options of what may be in progress and attempt to shine light on the upset/or whatever that may help them move on from being stuck in their fear zone.
But I'm very invested in the outcome when I read for others too, but it's a little easier to see the spread objectively.
So are we all.
The trick is to get practiced at walking the line of detachment from your sitters, so you still hold all your compassion, but don't get so drawn in to their story, that you are unable to be helpful and/or go away carrying their baggage yourself.
It's the same balance for therapy (as I'm a therapist). - 'where is the line where you end and your client/sitter begins?...' - it can be as subtle as the connections between two neurons - but the line should be there if you want to operate within a healthy relationship.