Well, she was actually overweight, never used a cane, had broad features but she did tie her hair back in a bun. Died in her mid 90's. Did read a lot but wasn't introverted. Did have an armchair but never crochet & hated all pets.
Sort of, possibly, but she usually kept quiet about her feelings about people unless they were something positive.
---This sentence fits along with enjoying reading but otherwise this lady is none of those things you're describing so I've got her family position wrong.
Yah this one has me lost, she never would have fish & wasn't into financial wealth, not even especially adventurous other than in discussing reading material or keeping track of her huge family.
---Thanks for highlighting this, usually those in spirit give evidence of who they are before going on to relay a message which applies to the sitter not the communicator, seems I need to clarify that point for people. From the goldfish on this is her message which applies to you. The imagery is the same as dream symbolism which is the primary language of spirit and her message may make more sense to you if you look it up.
So, questions & suggestions: (1) what is your process for coming up with the responses? Are you looking to Tarot or meditation or a computer program or book or some other process?
---It's the mediumship process in play here which is simply mind to mind, a dis-incarnate person communicating with someone on the earth plane. They respond to a person's name and I try and decipher and document what they're showing and giving me through means such as clairaudiece (hearing), clairvoyance (seeing) and clairsentience (knowing). As for translating the clairvoyant symbols the broader the knowledge the better so it's a case of learning the symbols then homing visualization skills. Besides dream imagery sometimes I'm impressed with tarot imagery. Whatever symbolism you choose to study they will communicate through in the best way they can according to level of development. The more symbolism we learn the more accurate the translation will be, so it's all about giving them a means to work through, they'll happily work with anyone who's willing.
---I'm struggling to define a way of accurately placing the relationship to the sitter, some for example show a top hat or a chain link so I know it's a direct line ascendant, some will show holding hands indicating friend or partner some may show a wedding ring some will show shoulder to shoulder as in same generation etc which is all well and good when clairvoyant skills are bang on but because intuition is channelled through the imagination the line is very thin between the two and we can mistake an imaginative thought for an intuitive thought plus I'm very good at jumping to conclusions.
(2) Do you think it might be helpful to not refer to specific relatives (maternal grandmother etc) & be a little more in-general, such as "There's a person near you with grey hair & a cane" or something?
---Problem with that is people don't get who they are and it wastes a lot of time especially with group mediumship when speed is of the essence. There's at least 3 people around you who you're unable to recognize and can't be placed because I can't get their names or relationship to you why would you see this as helpful? Are you saying she's not who I thought she was. Vagueness I've found invariably proves unhelpful but specific details help, thanks for the suggestion though.
(3) I was hoping I'd relate but I'm not recognizing any of the people you referred to, so sorry!!!