19/02 4 of Cups (Polly)


Here we see Polly drawing people, hanging up people facsimiles, and with a heart on her chest as though her emotional climate were one of good will towards others. Yet she is within a box, her cups are evenly spaced and ordered around a rectangular sheet of paper with two dimensional figures, and the dolls are comprised of a marionette and a hanged man. So I wonder if she idealizes human relationships and does not want to engage in the messy, non well-ordered business of actual communication and interaction. It seems a vicious circle (or is that square?) that the more she idealizes "mom" or "neighbor" or "friend" in her inner sanctum, the more likely the real person inhabiting that role is to "fail" in her eyes and the harder relating to them as fully dimensional people with problems and faults becomes. Does she fantasize with the marionette how people should act? Did the hanged man fail to live up to expectations? Perhaps Polly is uninterested in seizing opportunities because she fears letting go of her idealized visions. Yet in remaining isolated, she herself becomes a less than ideal daughter, neighbor and friend. If she could break out of her box, she could stretch her own potential and might find others react to her more positively. She would also find that our own imaginations are limited. However we had hoped someone would act, sometimes they act in a manner that is more wonderful than we ever could have guessed. Of course, sometimes they act more horribly, too, but the alternative is a static, self-referential "reality" without surprise or spontenaity.

Graham's booklet says: "Polly, the Four of Cups, spends much of her time shut away, yet she is desperate to make new friends. Polly is always searching for someone or something, yet when opportunities arise, she seems uninterested and doesn't take the next step.
Divinitory Meaning: The Four of Cups represents taking what is offered, reaching out, using the opportunity to meet people.
Reverse Meaning: Holding out, withdrawal."