kimtsan
If you are still reading , I would love a read.. thanks
My question is :
What actions do I need to take in order to improve my quality of life in my romantic life?
Question: "What actions do I need to take in order to improve my quality of life in my romantic life?"
Book: Alice's Adventures in Wonderland and Other Stories by Lewis Carroll
VII
We do not recommend the practice of eating cheese with a knife and fork in one hand, and a spoon and wine-glass in the other; there is a kind of awkwardness in the action which no amount of practice can entirely dispel.
From "Hints for Etiquette; or, Dining Out Made Easy"
This passage seems to be saying that to improve the quality of your romantic life, it might be a good thing to slow down and reconsider some of the things you have been trying to achieve. Are you juggling between various expectations and ideals? Are you trying to do too many things at once and overwhelming yourself as a result? There's a highly busy energy in the passage that showed up, and it may speak to the different activities that you engage yourself with. Little things do add up and it's time to untangle yourself from them and look at what's achievable and what will bring you to your desired results. Maybe there's an image you are trying to maintain and you stretch yourself too thin in your attempt to appear in a certain way or to follow certain rules. You try very hard and you may come across as trying too hard. One thing you can do is probably just do one thing at a time. You don't have to force yourself into a circus act. You can be yourself and do what naturally comes to you. To make a metaphor out of eating cheese--we all have different ways to eating cheese. Some of us cut it first, some of us bite off chunks and swallow hard, and some of us melt it into something else. You don't need to feel like you have to do things a certain way. You can eat cheese however you want to, and by showing your true self or true way of doing things, you will attract somebody who shares similar frequency as you--somebody who "eats cheese the way you do".
[end of reading]
Let me know if you have any questions! And sorry for the "cheesy" metaphor.
Best,
Kim