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I am not sure if this goes here since this is a point of view from a me as a client but it has helped me think of my reading behavior when I read for clients, paying and non paying. I never want to do what this woman did to me or make a client feel what she made me feel But there has to be a line or professionalism and tact that this woman apparently does not see it.
**RANT AHEAD**
I have been going through a lot of personal drama recently so I opted to pay for a reading from someone who's on a website with "recommended" readers. They go through a tough screening process supposedly by a very well known Author and Rootworker, Reader Etc. so i said what the heck I need an objective view and advice. I also had a specific question that i wanted answered because it was bothering me for a few months and hearing the answer to it would not change the decisions that I already made on the matter. I just wanted to KNOW plus I am paying right? It was bugging me and I wanted to know if a hunch was right is all. Well let me tell you after this reading I want to hang myself basically. this woman left me feeling WORSE about myself than I initially went in not to mention she didnt even read on what i wanted.
She asks "what is your question". I stated my question and God knows why I gave her some background so she would understand. WHY! She goes off saying "oh no that is silly you have to move on and let all this go. I will give you a reading because you paid for one but you have to get over it and move on" not to mention I know what to do I called for confirmation on something else. Why would you state your personal opinion on this when arent you just supposed to relay the message in the cards?? Then she pulls cards EVERYTHING was bad (most cards were reversed), I mean everything....My spiritual work doesnt work so I should stop doing it (what?!) I have daddy issues which affect relationships (huh!?) at one point she goes into my past relationship and says "he left probably because there is another girl waiting for him, I am not saying that is true because I dont see it in the cards but that is probably why" (What??) how much sense does that make?? so since she brought him up I asked "did he ever care about me or does he?" her answer? "thats not important, who cares? what matters is that he is no longer here and he is never coming back" so i asked was that in the cards? which card are you looking at?" "no it didnt come up in the cards thats why I'm telling you" then she goes off telling me to forget the relationship and move on etc. and that was not my question to begin with. I know that sometimes your question doesnt show up and other things do but she didnt even try to answer it. OH! and THEN she has the nerve (I started crying on the phone now) to tell me that since I am 29 years old, I am at the age of being a Queen and i should be married and have many kids by now and if this was the 1920s I would have gotten married when i was 22 She said you will get married and have kids because you are smart and pretty. i asked, is that in the cards that you pulled? "No, its just common sense I know it" Lady!
My point is aren't you supposed to remain objective and non-judgemental as a reader, specially if you call yourself a professional?? I felt SO judged and uncomfortable. At some point I felt SO bad that I agreed with her! like "yea ok I guess that could make sense....I dont know...." I dont want anyone to sugarcoat things for me. I appreciate honesty but calling me a loser with daddy issues doesnt HELP me. Yes, I use personal anecdotes but only to clarify a point so the person understands what I am trying to say but I never impose my beliefs or opinions on Quarants. Like she told me to not believe in Fate and Soulmates and star crossed lover etc. I didnt even bring up that topic but she went off into not believing in signs etc. and I'm sorry but I am not changing my beliefs because you think they are dumb! I have read for Jewish/Christian people and I never told them to not believe in what they believe in. I can take bad news but she was not even reading the cards and that bothers me. I would NEVER want a quarant to leave feeling the way i felt afterwards and feel now which is pretty darn depressed. Where's the line? Yea its hard to remain objective sometimes specially if you've gone through a similar situation but READ the cards! I dont care about your friend's father who did this, that man is not my father! At one point I was reading my own cards. "Your dad got the king of pents. describe him to me" "uhm....yes he is like the king of pents....etc" I'm just upset.
where is the line as a reader? where do you start stating your own opinions and should you even do that?? where does she get off judging me for being 29 and single!! oh sorry I am such a loser in your eyes! and here I have been so worried about me sucking as a reader and not being able to hlep people and there are people out there who do this?! Some of you may remember that reader I went to years ago who said my ex left me because he was gay and I would soon die from AIDS and I had Satan inside me....well THIS reading I got yesterday comes in second place as worst readings ever!!!!!
**RANT AHEAD**
I have been going through a lot of personal drama recently so I opted to pay for a reading from someone who's on a website with "recommended" readers. They go through a tough screening process supposedly by a very well known Author and Rootworker, Reader Etc. so i said what the heck I need an objective view and advice. I also had a specific question that i wanted answered because it was bothering me for a few months and hearing the answer to it would not change the decisions that I already made on the matter. I just wanted to KNOW plus I am paying right? It was bugging me and I wanted to know if a hunch was right is all. Well let me tell you after this reading I want to hang myself basically. this woman left me feeling WORSE about myself than I initially went in not to mention she didnt even read on what i wanted.
She asks "what is your question". I stated my question and God knows why I gave her some background so she would understand. WHY! She goes off saying "oh no that is silly you have to move on and let all this go. I will give you a reading because you paid for one but you have to get over it and move on" not to mention I know what to do I called for confirmation on something else. Why would you state your personal opinion on this when arent you just supposed to relay the message in the cards?? Then she pulls cards EVERYTHING was bad (most cards were reversed), I mean everything....My spiritual work doesnt work so I should stop doing it (what?!) I have daddy issues which affect relationships (huh!?) at one point she goes into my past relationship and says "he left probably because there is another girl waiting for him, I am not saying that is true because I dont see it in the cards but that is probably why" (What??) how much sense does that make?? so since she brought him up I asked "did he ever care about me or does he?" her answer? "thats not important, who cares? what matters is that he is no longer here and he is never coming back" so i asked was that in the cards? which card are you looking at?" "no it didnt come up in the cards thats why I'm telling you" then she goes off telling me to forget the relationship and move on etc. and that was not my question to begin with. I know that sometimes your question doesnt show up and other things do but she didnt even try to answer it. OH! and THEN she has the nerve (I started crying on the phone now) to tell me that since I am 29 years old, I am at the age of being a Queen and i should be married and have many kids by now and if this was the 1920s I would have gotten married when i was 22 She said you will get married and have kids because you are smart and pretty. i asked, is that in the cards that you pulled? "No, its just common sense I know it" Lady!
My point is aren't you supposed to remain objective and non-judgemental as a reader, specially if you call yourself a professional?? I felt SO judged and uncomfortable. At some point I felt SO bad that I agreed with her! like "yea ok I guess that could make sense....I dont know...." I dont want anyone to sugarcoat things for me. I appreciate honesty but calling me a loser with daddy issues doesnt HELP me. Yes, I use personal anecdotes but only to clarify a point so the person understands what I am trying to say but I never impose my beliefs or opinions on Quarants. Like she told me to not believe in Fate and Soulmates and star crossed lover etc. I didnt even bring up that topic but she went off into not believing in signs etc. and I'm sorry but I am not changing my beliefs because you think they are dumb! I have read for Jewish/Christian people and I never told them to not believe in what they believe in. I can take bad news but she was not even reading the cards and that bothers me. I would NEVER want a quarant to leave feeling the way i felt afterwards and feel now which is pretty darn depressed. Where's the line? Yea its hard to remain objective sometimes specially if you've gone through a similar situation but READ the cards! I dont care about your friend's father who did this, that man is not my father! At one point I was reading my own cards. "Your dad got the king of pents. describe him to me" "uhm....yes he is like the king of pents....etc" I'm just upset.
where is the line as a reader? where do you start stating your own opinions and should you even do that?? where does she get off judging me for being 29 and single!! oh sorry I am such a loser in your eyes! and here I have been so worried about me sucking as a reader and not being able to hlep people and there are people out there who do this?! Some of you may remember that reader I went to years ago who said my ex left me because he was gay and I would soon die from AIDS and I had Satan inside me....well THIS reading I got yesterday comes in second place as worst readings ever!!!!!