Bonny
Up to a point I agree.
BUT there have been cases where one person is hurting themselves by obsessing - I am not about to name anyone - but the individual I am thinking of who reads frequently on the same issue has actually said fair cop, and been happy to discuss the earlier readings in relation to the most recent. If one has been following an individual (stalking, you call it) because you are concerned about them, I DO think it's OK to mention their earlier readings. If they immediately said please don't, I would comply - but so far that hasn't happened in the case I have in mind.
Also it is, I think, fair to ask "is this the same guy you asked about yesterday" as that may colour your take on a new reading.
What you're saying here about 'concern' is meritous, totally agree.
This is different from the energy of 'I've checked up in you and you have asked quite a lot in x so I decline.'
Concern is a nebulous dynamic; there used to be a comedy in this country , where a character would name off many many intrusive, mean, woeful things they would do to/for their son-in law or daughter and then say, 'All because I care'.
Concern guises projected thoughts.
The transaction is pretty simple at AT:
Yes?
Reader offers a seat.
A sitter sits
Reader reads
Sitter listens and gives feedback.
'You've done this, I know because I checked up on you' and 'I don't think you're meant for him' and 'I wish you would just get it' are not the hallmarks of good practitioner or teacher or Reader in any domain.
Those presumptions affect the power relationship with the Sitter, they become the lesser , the vulnerable, the poorer one in the exchange. The potential Reader assumes more power via information getting and use of rhetorical devices structured like this, 'you have asked this question before and I will not have this on my thread'. It's a power thing.
I am saying this is the wrong way around. The Sitter deserves the greater place.
Within 24 hours, tsunamis roll, people die, babies are born, rships topple or excel.
All unexpectedly.
How can a Reader , especially in a world wide forum such as this presume that the Sitter is just ignoring the signs given?
More pertinently I would ask WHY do they do that...
It seems unwise to me.