I'm female and I use the Thoth as my main reading deck - have done for a long time now. There are quite a lot of us here that do.
My sagest advice regarding Crowley's writings is to read them widely yourself, not take others' agendas at face value regarding his feelings about women, or Jews, or black people, or child sacrifice, or any other conflagratory topic. Much of what Crowley wrote about women was a breath of fresh air for Victorian times; other things he wrote were absolutely at home in those times. He was (un?)fortunate enough to live on the brink of massive social change; add to that his natural flair for and love of controversy, and you begin to understand that his writings cannot be taken at face value or out of context.
I'm not a Crowley apologist, really. I realise that he was a mongrel of a man for much of his life and he did badly by a lot of people. But the single-minded witch hunts that are propagated against him on the internet are blown entirely out of proportion and he offered much that is of value to the world of magick and philosophy.
I hope someone with a better memory than I can quote or link his words regarding women from (I think?) his Commentary on the Book of the Law.
It's a wonderful deck, with infinite depths and much to chew on that could keep you busy for the rest of your life, no matter how old you are! I hope that you give it a chance, if it catches your eye at all.
\m/ Kat