Occasional Love Pack (Chuck Spezzano) Daily Draws

[purple_scorp]

Welcome lovers that are, and lovers that want to be.

This thread is for the purpose of discussing Chuck Spezzano's Love Pack.

There are no hard and fast rules for how this thread will operate. I expect it will evolve along the way.

Participants might like to draw an individual card and post their interpretation/reflection and how it might relate to their life at that point in time. Or, they can just simply interpret the card generically, without applying it to anyone. The frequency of the draw will be left up to the member (that's why we've called the thread "Occasional" and not "Daily".

I see this as an ongoing "learning" environment where we can share information, rather than a "please interpret my reading" environment (which is better suited to a new thread each time). Therefore, it might be best to keep posts to a one-card reading only. However, given the nature of this deck and its relationship to the Problem suit, participants may wish to draw additional cards if they have selected a Problem card (so that they may understand the healing layers involved in working through that issue).

Here we go.........

purple_scorp

 

[darwinia]

Steep Expectations

#45 - Fear of Inadequacy

I love the way these cards have these simple, yet immediately identifiable emotions. This one depicts a long set of stairs with a fearful and shaken man looking back over his shoulder to the top of the stairs where a woman is showing him a very, very large heart. Kind of a "See honey, we ARE soul mates" kind of thing.

Why does everything always have to be such a big deal? Try getting to know the guy first before you present him with your gigantic heart on a steep set of stairs. Are we in a contest for who can measure up to the Big Heart of Forever Promise?

Chuck says this fear keeps us from handling what comes next and is the cause of many inexplicable break-ups. We are afraid that the other person won't like us once they get to know us, so we fear opening up. He says it's better to resolve the fear rather than sabotage the relationship.

To pair with this I picked a passage randomly from the book "The Art of Hand Lettering" by Helm Wotzkov. In the chapter Italic Miniscules I turned to a sample calligraphic moment that says:

"Always endeavour to find some interesting variation."

Perhaps instead of the huge heart done up in italic flourishes, we can find an interesting variation where we don't display our hopes (and fears) on the big heart?

Think back to every friendship you've had regardless of the gender of your friend. They all have a honeymoon period, and yes, your friend might not be perfect in some respects, but there is a bit of shuffling in the deck in any friendship and when it settles you can very nicely carry on and enjoy things as they REALLY are.

I see this term "soul mates" bandied about a lot. I can understand the allure of such a thing, but maybe you're missing out on a good friend who feels inadequate because they can't ride your endless stairway to soul mate heaven? I wonder how many of us scare people away like that?

Why does someone have to be the one, the true, the only? I call this the dream of The Other and I think we might be happier dismissing such ideas from our minds.

We'd certainly have a lot more men sitting with us in the middle of the stairs enjoying the view on a nice day with cloud pictures floating by. Oooh, and he's got dark hair too. . .

 

[purple_scorp]

Darn it, I'm trapped

hello darwinia,

I'm so excited - that was a great way to explain that card and I loved your accompanying quote too.

The other pertinent thing in this card is the fact that the tall, dark and handsome sitting at the bottom of the stairs has his back to the wanna-be lover at the top. It's possible that he doesn't even realise she is there. He definitely has a case of the "woe is me's". Snap out of it, sonny!

Interesting your comment on soul mates because I met one of mine last year. It evoked feelings in me that I never knew existed and now I feel that it has set the bar rather high for anyone to follow. So, I can really relate to your card.

My card = #50 - trap (problem)

A card of self-imprisonment, it shows a woman behind a length of bars, with the key within her reach, but on the other side.

This woman is stuck and doesn't know how, or want, to free herself. The irony is that there is only one wall of bars (the one she clings to). So, if she chose to, she could easily step around either end of this length. But it is unfamiliar and more secure for her to stay right where she is.

Even though we sometimes don't like the situation we are in, we chose to remain in it, fearful of any changes that may arise if we try to step out of it.

From Chuck's book: "...we can only be trapped by something to the extent that we want to be trapped, want to try to make ourselves safe and not have to face the next step, or our purpose."

And, to heal it: "Your willingness, your commitment to the next step - even your realization that there must be a better way of doing things - will help you."

purple_scorp

 

[darwinia]

This woman is stuck and doesn't know how, or want, to free herself. The irony is that there is only one wall of bars (the one she clings to)

It's a classic 8 of Swords moment! The 8 of Swords is one of my personal cards so I can really relate to your card. <g>

Problems, problems everywhere. I very much like the Problem cards in this deck, they are so accurate in pinpointing what we try so hard to hide from.

 

[katie_here]

Hi there

I just want to register my interest here in joining in in these threads. I too have the Love Pack.

I've just spent the last week with my daughter (who has an acquired brain injury and attends a specialist college). I didn't have time to join in before, but now I have picked my card,

My card = #6 - Letting Go (Healing)

I can only presume that this card is exactly how I feel today. Its hard to let go of someone, especially when you know they are so vulnerable and let them in the care of someone else.

There is a sentence in the book that says, "The principle of letting go implies that something better will come to take its place, or that the same thing will come back at a higher level. The latter part of the sentence rings true here, the more I let her go in the big wide world (albeit in the confines of a specialist college) the more independence she learns and the more improved she is when she comes back home.

It has took me a long time to realise (as all mothers must know) that sometimes too much mothering is too much of a hinderance, there is a time in your life when you have to LET GO.

 

[purple_scorp]

Hi Katie,

glad you joined in . One of the things I find hardest to let go of is expectations and outcomes. I know you are supposed to step back and let The Universe sort the process. Maybe it's the penetrating Scorp in me that wants to jump to the last page of the story book. NOW! Did I say I had an Aries moon, lol.

My card for today - #5 - Communication (Healing)

Though the card depicts what seems to be communication symbols strung together on a kite-like apparatus, I can't help but wonder why it is all such a tangled mess. And what of the two pictured in the card, one at either end, holding onto the ropes/vines. Are they about to have a tug of war? If so, I wonder which one will get donged by that telephone when it comes flying in their direction.

Encompassing many different mediums, communication is a vital key to pretty much everything in the world.

From the book: "If you receive this card it signals that some significant sharing is about to take place".............. and ............."Your Communication skills can help you progress and change, no matter how others respond to you."

I'm not sure if I agree with that latter. I think it should read Your "good" communication skills......some people have really poor communication skills - don't know that will get you very far.

purple_scorp

 

[katie_here]

its been practically a week now.....

so I will pull another card and see what it springs to mind.....


Heartbreak #43 Problem

There is a winding road, it is strewn with broken hearts, a man is at the furthest end of the road, but its hard to see whether he is walking away or he has stopped for a while.

a woman stands in the foreground of the picture, hands covering her face, clearly sobbing her heart out.

What can she do, go back towards the man, picking up the pieces of her heart, or go forward and forget all about them........

tricky question!


I want to draw another card now, I don't feel I can leave it like this....

Intimacy #34 Luck

A brighter landscape with the sun clearly shining, there is a rounded tree with a birds nest on top, a couple sit under the shade, arms around each other, enjoying the feeling of togetherness and seclusion.

I can only assume the woman in the prior card chose to walk on, leaving the pain behind and step forward to a brighter future.

and now I feel happy too!

 

[purple_scorp]

My card for today - Independence (46, Problem)

Interesting that I drew this card last night because the night before, I'd had a telephone conversation where I expressed disappointment in the support I'd received from my friends following my mother's death.

He suggested that people might not approach me because I am a very strong person, and give the opinion that I have everything under control. Immediately, I said: "Im so damn independent!"

And here it is.....the card that shows a man who has rowed a boat out to an island, so happy to live alone that he pushes the boat away, so that he does not need to return to the rest of the world.

Chuck says: "If you or your partner receive this card, you are dealing with dissociation........Independence is a stage of growth we all go through, and the more we were wounded or lost bonding as a child, the more we tend to get stuck here.......Since Independence does not allow us to receive easily, we work very hard, try to do all the right things, but somehow still do not get rewarded...."

Also interesting that in that same telephone conversation, we discussed a disassociated head from heart.

The solution from Chuck: "As you commit to going forward, you will find solutions to present problems and become more connected with yourself and with those around you, allowing you to receive more."

purple_scorp

 

[katie_here]

My Card for Today #7 - Self Worth - Healing


This is an interesting card given the conversation I have just had with purple-scorp.


I have been discussing the "moving on" card I drew earlier, in relation to the man with the crook leg and because of things he has said about me (negative) to his friends, I found it hard to move on, really wanting him to say he was wrong to his friends.

But thru' perseverance, my own personality, and his short comings, I have finally achieved what I wanted, without any help from him or his approval. People (through time) have got to know me and know me for my true self, not his impression of me.

So now I have my self worth... I know my value and I earnt it myself.

The card depicts person (probably a boy) wearing a crown, standing on a plinth holding a shining red heart aloft. He is standing in victory, the winner of his own heart.

and what does Chuck have to say.... well nothing at the moment because I cannot find my book

I'll get back to this later

 

[purple_scorp]

and what does purple_scorp have to say......well, you knew I would comment, yes?????

We have to love oursElf before others can love us.

I'm so glad you found that missing piece of the puzzle. Sometimes, we have to LET GO of the expectation that others will do the things we want them to. In this case, you were seeking an apology, and recognition of your relationship. You got neither. You have to remember that you can't control other people, but you CAN control yoursElf. You CAN change your thought, and that CAN change your feeling (Wayne Dyer). Only YOU can do that and when it happens, you have your victory. Now you have your self-worth, you will attract the love that you desire.

purple_scorp